I think you and I have a different view of selfishness and abuse.
I said that I would not agree to a feeding tube for somebody I love. To me that would be cruel, inhumane and selfish.
Let's agree not to name each other in a medical POA. :)
My dad was buried 25 years ago today. I had had to make the decision to not put him on life-support.
When an ultrasound showed "somethimg ?" around my mother's liver and the doc called to have more tests, I said that if she had something I didn't want to know until it caused her a problem because I didn't want treatment that was worse than anything she might have...at her age and with dementia.
Pain management was always my first concern with my parents and I have never regreted those decisions. I wouldn't want to be kept alive just to prolong my life. I'm not afraid to die.
Which question are you whining about? I don’t really have time to keep entertaining a jerk who thinks my husband should be starved and dehydrated to death. I’m a little busy keeping him alive at the moment. My free time is scarce, and I’ve wasted too much of it on you already. I generally avoid your type these days. I try to stay in a good mood, for myself and my husband. So I generally surround myself with people who don’t wish death on people like my husband. So if you’re feeling any guilt about the way you’ve treated your parents, don’t turn to me for comfort. I don’t have time for it.
that’s you. Terri wanted to live, see?
Terri's parents and siblings were totally available to care for her and also neighbors. She didn't need 24/7 nursing care. She needed the therapy that Mikey cut off.
So, you aren't afraid to die. Good for you. This is about Terri wanting to live and having people who loved her and would care for her no matter what.