Like you said: no one visits an abortionist for an already dead baby. My mother lost one child at a fairly late date and had to have a D&C, which her rabidly pro life physician performed for her (and which nearly killed her; these things are not safe and predictable).
The only “skill” an abortionist has that a real doctor doesn’t, is the willingness to kill a living child.
My main point, if the neighbor is still reading, is that it is truly nonsensical to think an abortionist several states away could do this procedure better than a physician in a hospital.