I concur with most of what you have written. I married a bit later in life and I can attest that I could never, ever seriously date a leftist woman. Have met a few good looking ones, but oh, my, gosh. I cannot see how that would ever work.
I encourage both of you to individually and together seek the will of God. Jeremiah 33:3 promises that if you do this God will respond to you.
I’ve “dated” a couple of really good looking liberals. Their good looks couldn’t elevate their stupid liberal ideals and opinions.
I’m an engineer, and conservative. I married a social worker who was moderately liberal. But she was just young; at core she was solid, very solid, and we’ve been together for 40 years, this next September.
As time went on, she became more conservative. About the only thing left is that she still thinks dogs are better people than most people. But then I’ve come around to that conclusion myself.