Where have you been the last 30+ years?
There are plenty of men who exhibit those characteristics.
Unfortunately, women don't want them. They get called "Nice Guys" and the women instead go whore themselves around with the players, the thugs, the losers.
Way too many men out there are slackers, they lack ambition, work ethic, discipline. They act like overgrown adolescents. Whenever I see a man sitting at home playing a child's video game on the living room couch in his sweatpants, I want to smack him upside the head and knock some sense into him.
When your only choices are women who are like Sandra Fluke or women who are like Kim Kardashian, playing video games doesn't sound so bad.
Way too many men dress like slobs in public. Next time you go to a nice restaurant, look around you. You will see grown men taking their woman to dinner dressed in hockey jerseys, sneakers, ill-fitting jeans, etc.
You see guys like that with girls because that's the type of guy that girls want.
It's really simple. Women do the choosing. If woman went for respectable gentlemen, guys would be respectable gentlemen. If women go for lazy losers & thugs, the guys are going to be lazy losers & thugs.
See "Women don't want a Gentleman"
I was rather serious as a young adult and did not get a lot of female attention. Now that I am entering my 50s and have a measure of financial and career success to show for it, I now have women constantly flirting with me and making it more than apparent that they would welcome my advances even though they know that I am married. So I'm thinking to myself "Where were these women 30 years ago!"
So even back in the 1970s, when I was coming of age, there was a "jock" mindset with the girls. They would rather be out dating the football player who would treat them like an accessory and attempt to date-rape them every night rather than the quiet kid who studied hard, with the intentions of making something out of his life after school.
Difference was that in my generation, there were a lot of boys who eventually turned into successful men so when the girls grew up themselves, there were plenty of good men to be found. These days, you have an entire generation of 20 and 30-something "boys" who don't even know how to wear a business suit or hold down a decent job. They are fated to spend the rest of their shiftless lives bouncing from dead-end job to dead-end job - if they work at all. So I think that is why men like myself are drawing all the female attention these days.