Sure, we have accidents in the kitchen because we don’t pay attention. However, by 13 it would be her norm to be at full attention at all times. By 2, our kids knew not to touch things that were hot. Not that they were ever burned but like “no” (which kids ignore), “hot” was their key word for anything they were never supposed to go near or touch be it the stove or an ant bed or an expensive glass vase. Telling them “no” was more a testing of mom but “hot” was never to be questioned. These kids need a code word, maybe not “hot” but maybe “scar” or similar to what the result would be if they did something dangerous. If mine could learn that at 2, then by 13 this girl should know to be respectful of hot water or other harmful behaviors. I don’t believe she doesn’t understand the concept of heat because she can feel warm and cold. I also don’t believe she can’t wrap her mind around what boiling water will do to skin. Seriously, at 13 her mom is just now teaching her how to remove something from boiling water?
If these kids can’t feel pain, they can certainly understand blood pouring from a wound, a broken bone that makes your body not work properly or your finger is at a weird angle, a cast, a bruise, a nasty scar or a trip to the hospital. If you do x,y,z you will go to the hospital which is not a fun place. If you do a,b,c you will have a nasty scar that will be there all your life and it will gross people out. Most girls cry over pimples so why would they be careless enough to cause a scar?
Really, jumping off the roof? Fine, kids think they’re invincible and that kid died but didn’t his parents explain such behaviors? Where were his parents and why did they let him have idiots for friends? At best, jumping off the roof will get you a broken leg. Do you really want your leg bone sticking out of your skin and not be able to play football for months while you’re on crutches?
I see that you get my point, and agree with all that you have said.