Something that sums up concept passed me last week that went along the lines of - God does not prevent bad things or good things from happening, but rather all things cause you to be shaped for the better if you intellectually apply Christian principles. This means a death or other tragedy hurts you, but you have to choose your response - by shaping yourself within a set of principles, in this examples those of Christianity then you are shaped.
Christians are misunderstood to be nut cases by nonbelievers. Believers see the human institutions of governance as one that provides what man controls.
Either person, whether of faith or not, follows a complex set of rules in which they live to sort out chaos and give order to their lives.
The very idea people believe who project onto Christians a widely held liberal falsehood that God is in control is to very aptly conclude that you are not a Christian, you do not understand and as a consequence cannot or will not allow your intellect to understand.
So I guess it’s kinda like that old joke, the punchline of which is “then God says, “but I sent you two boats and a helicopter!!”