What stood out for me in your post was that your family members are like the blacks that I know: successful, intelligent and educated people who made it in America way before 0 showed up.
What has happened to them has happened to all of us and it helps me to realize my real angst is with Leftists and is not racial.
One young mixed race friend told her Dominican mortgage broker/landlord boyfriend:”You think you might have also been part of the problem?” Seems he could not collect rents from some blacks who told him that since 0 was POTUS, they no longer had to pay rent at all. These two both earn well above $150k/year, are just 40 or so and they may just vote for Romney.
Listening to that story, it's my bet that they'll either stay home, or give Romney their vote. I can't see them showing up to vote for the Disaster in Chief again.