A few years back, I lent a “friend” a hundred bucks for groceries, as she was having a tough time.
I never in a million years, would have guessed she’d sell out our friendship over a hundred bucks, but she did.
She made all kinds of excuses, and then refused to return my calls.
I know right where she lives, and could confront her in person, but I chose not to, I just let the whole thing go.
She isn’t worth the effort it would take to hate her.
I do believe however, that what she did will come back to her one day.
Now, I lend money to no one.
If you loan someone $20 and never see them again, it was probably worth it. That’s an old saying I saw somewhere.
Got burned by a co-worker for $100. He had just done me a favor, so I loaned him the money. Made excuses for the next two months till he was fired for attendance.
I never in a million years, would have guessed she’d sell out our friendship over a hundred bucks, but she did.
A hundred dollars buys something like three or four sacks of groceries today, so a little perspective might be a good thing here.
You might be amazed at how liberating it is to simply shift your consideration of that loan in your own mind, and decide that it was a gift to a friend in dire need. Just turn it around completely and let the ill will go.
You might also get a friend back if you communicate that to her. Who knows...one day, she may be the one person who moves heaven and earth to help you.
That's what stunned me too.