he went as far as to name me a Jr - no self identity, major self esteem issues in youth.(Im 50 now)....
we have a large family business - I worked 21 yrs there, left in 05 for ministry / pastorate....long story short, I returned in '11 - the first words out of his mouth were "Youre off the Board and you'll be just like any other employee because you abandoned the company"
it got so bad with my sibs that my disabled sister - who is extremely normal by every measure, had her finances managed by them until the age of 40.....My mother actually cooked another sibs meals well after she was married (my sis is a Dr)....some real sick stuff and an inability to let the kid grow up emotionally..its all about control.its their god
It breaks my heart too ...one day last year I told him all us sibs would give up all the money for a relationship with him....he responded - "the most important thing is the business, then my wife (mom) and then you kids"
He is honestly dead to me at this point - not in vengeance, rather self preservation
Have you ever considered kicking his arrogant, narcissistic ASS? It might be the most loving thing you could ever do for the guy.
Just a thought.
That my FRiend is a sad story.
I’m saying a prayer for you....
How sad.
My Godson is being raised by such a “mother.” She slung false charges against Daddy until an investigation gave her full control, then put the boy on prescribed psychotropics & set about robbing him of his childhood. At six, he’s now spent half his life being told he’s so bad he needs fixing with drugs & it’s all the fault of a Daddy he hasn’t seen in all that time.
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But you are here posting and seem to’ve survived - painfully, but with sanity intact and knowing to keep your poisonous father at a distance. I grieve with you, but in the knowledge that my Godson is only beginning a hard, hard life.