Posted on 05/09/2012 9:38:16 PM PDT by fabian
I sat in the Hollywood, Ca. McDonald's eating my meal as I watched an apparently single young mom berating her young son several seats next to me. He was young, maybe seven or eight years old childish look of innocence still. But I feared that that look would be displaced with one of anger if his mom kept up that badgering diatribe on him; like you do this, you always do that, you are this and that...all negative words that I could see were her projection of anger that she most probably had for the father not being around. I went up and spoke to her, letting her know that he is not a bad kid and she needs to be more calm for him and that she could find that path at www.copingstratiegscd.com. I know that her reaction, while muted, is the type of defensiveness that often keeps people from speaking up to bullies, wherever the are in our lives. I just remained patient and know that the look of "thank you, you are right" look on the boy's face made what I did a blessing to him and not forgotten. I pray that he will be ok, but I know what it is like to be raised by an emotional mom without dad being around to at least modify that anger. The thing is, that many millions of men bail out and leave the rearing of the kids souls to mom, but she is set up to, and can hardly help herself, from resenting the father and passing that automatically down to the kids, especially the males. We, as humans, are already predicated for resentment by the original sin, but for cowardly men to just leave the families, no matter how difficult it is to stick around, is the very reason America is falling badly, not to mention the world. Yes, the cause of so much anger is the vessels of angry women, but the real FAULT lies with the men as they are the God ordained leaders of the world and families. So how can blame be cast on the feminizing of America, without including the real root reason for that? It is like Adam once again blaming Eve rather than seeing and admitting that it was ultimately his fault as he was the one directly spoken to by God, not his mate. She really did what she was compelled to do, and it was Adam's job to say no, or to go along and then God's plan of redemption would play out. But the blame lies squarely on Adam, or did, just as it does now with men for the women taking too much control of many societies. So don't go blaming women for "taking over, and control" in many places of power. Rather, blame the men for opening those doors with your own ego and inflated sexual needs as the true reasons for our failing nation!
Yes...because father is like God to some degree for the young kids...or the rep for God.
That is funny...silly, but funny.
I think you have summed ME up, right there.
Yes, and thank you..bless you too.
When I was little, it was God, Jesus Christ, my Dad ... in THAT order
Thank you much! I will save it in that format.
I wasn’t suggesting that Rush is a mysoginist.
I wasn’t suggesting that Rush is a mysoginist.
Yes, there is a lot of pain for sure. Patience and allowing those little resentments to pass is really the key to life. But it is harder when we are little, so I wrote that to be helpful, especially to the children of angry parents and to single moms.
They may be “highly respectable”, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t suffer from dealing with the depression and self-loathing it creates within you.
Consider that the courts are often willing to listen to those so afflicted while deciding against the father in custody battles, the courts doom children to this sort of exposure, and often with the blessings and assistance of Social Service Agencies who know they will have an enduring caseload as a result.
I won't say the fathers don't willingly leave such a union if it was ever formalized, just that they have little chance of taking their children with them, even if their situation makes that economically possible.
It has been my experience that many of those who constantly use all or nothing statements are afflicted with some form of substance abuse as well, making a sustained relationship with the mother exceedingly difficult or impossible. However, liberals as well tend to use such all or nothing statements in normal discourse, and those in the Social Services industry tend to sympathize, especially with those who know just what the Social Workers want to hear.
At the base of all of that is a cultural morality which trivializes the very relationships, momentary or 'permanent', which lead to offspring. A longer courtship may have precluded the liaison. When we address the moral issues which underlie situations like the one that child is in, perhaps there will be fewer children in those situations.
The 'anything goes/if it feels good, do it' moral standard has been immensely destructive in ways we won't understand until those who study such things can be completely honest about the results.
ok, thanks
wow...let us speak openly to these people to try and stop the abuse whenever possible! The www.copingstrategiescd.com is a perfect tool to share and it is free to listen to.
That is good...
A lot of people grow up in tough situations. Most aren't criminals (unless they touch hard drugs).
What do you think?
bump!
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