Yes, that is the primary intial attraction. Hopefully it has more of a love of right than a love for the woman’s body. My point is very true and is that the love must transcend sexual love in order for a more happy and fulfilling spiritual love to take it’s place completely....eventually. www.copingstrategiescd.org has that pathway for eventually a more fulfilling union!
Sexual love between husband and wife are one of God's greatest gifts to marriage. Rejecting that gift is nothing less than spitting in the eye of God.
Sex is a healthy and basic component of any monogamous relationship. So is a deep and abiding mutual love, which might be better defined as a strong affinity between mates, strong agreements on the 'big picture' of life, and a high degree of open communication with one another.
In my opinion, all of these things are essential for an optimum marriage. I would never agree to work toward diminishing a single one of them. On the contrary, I think that people who find a way to strengthen all of these things (including sex), have the very best marriages.
Re: your tag line...
“If there’s a bustle in your hedge row, don’t be alarmed now. It’s just a spring clean for the May Queen.”