I had a hard time keeping up with my Giant Jalapenos last year! They just exploded with growth - I told my wife that I was tired of picking them. She told me to stop picking them! She does not like hot peppers - My most successful produce and she can’t stand them - heat wise! What to do?
Wish I could help, but I don’t really like them either; I just know how to grow them!
We pick them ripe, then let them sit until slightly wrinkled & fully red; then either sliver & dry, or dry & crush them for use in both gifts & in my Thai cooking.
One or two smallish ones sliced per pint of sweet dill pickles is good. I make (have to look it up on the Net; I don’t have it handy) “Lazy Woman’s Sweet Pickles”. I additionally lime the cukes first, then use that recipe, adding dill seed & weed, and the peppers. IIRC, I also toss in some parts of the Candy Dills recipe. A little Kentucky windage while the syrup is cooking always takes place, too.
By the time they are ready, they are mildly warm; the syrup is almost thick enough to cut, and the pickles are sweet like a gherkin, but dilled enough to give a good flavor.
Fortunately for me, Anaheims are far enough on the hot side to do well for me, and those are cool enough for my taste: they mainly go for rellenos of several persuasions; or into the wife’s stir frys.
Perhaps your wife does not dislike the heat of hot peppers, but the taste of Jalapenos. That is the way I feel about them.
I like most hot peppers for their heat and taste, but not Jalapenos.