Posted on 12/27/2011 7:22:42 AM PST by SeekAndFind
Not wanting his name, and wanting to divorce him isn’t the point.
Divorce doesn’t mean she’ll ever be completely rid of him.
Too many people think that it is possible to walk off into a new life without the burden of their former spouse’s life ever invading their own, because they don’t understand that when there are children, the bonds of parenthood still bind them.
No, she won’t be calling him in desperation begging for child support because she must feed the children and he is a deadbeat father who doesn’t provide for his children’s welfare.
But, he’ll always be somewhere on the edges of her life. Her children will mention his name. He’ll invade their thoughts at birthday celebrations. He’ll take the kids on vacation and then they’ll return to her home and talk about what they did with him. His ghost will always be there.
She’ll have to share their hearts with him, forever.
He’s gonna wake up one morning, look down at his prone body on the sheets of his bed, and wish to God he had worked harder to maintain his marriage of 30+ years.
Some of you say “nay” ... but when he is left all alone, his body ailing, his mind failing, he’ll come to his senses and realize that a woman who stood with him for over thirty years was a ‘keeper’ and he is a failure for not realizing this sooner.
See my tagline ... marriage is a covenant, not a civil agreement. Covenant, not just an agreement to ‘love’ until love ends or one gets tired of the other or things aren’t working the way the ‘controller’ wants or some new face flatters a faltering ego ... I pray for the souls of the Gibsons and their children.
The difference between a Saint and everyone else, is that a Saint lives and acts in a saintly manner. Mel Gibson failed himself here ... as the male, the man, the husband, he knows his responsibility to the marriage covenant. God help him to repent, do penance, and reconcile with God and his family.
For a family man, Mel always struck me as a bit too much at ease all dressed in studded black leather in many of his films.
“She has $400 million reasons to be happy.
He has a twenty something girlfriend.”
Who, now that he hasn’t the same load of cash, will probably move on. No fool like an old fool.
I’m sure not all of the years were bad. In 31 years, there must have been some good times.
“... and wish to God he had worked harder to maintain his marriage of 30+ years”.
I truly hope for his sake that he gets his life/issues worked out. I truly wonder if he did... they couldn’t reunite. (yeah, I know that is a long shot but stranger things have happened)
No dude....I got dibbs!!!!!
She is rid of him as a constant source of irritation.
Aren't most of their "kids" grown?...late teens or 20's?
His youngest with Robyn is ten years old.
The laws are so screwed up. She doesn’t deserve 1/100th of his worth.
I’ll bet she felt little joy, though. The money had always been hers, just as my husband’s income is mine to use as household income. I’d bet she would much rather return to the years when they were a happy and whole family.
Agreed. And people wonder why marriages are down.
Poor kid...his life has been mixed up for a long time...thanks to good old dad!
I’m an adult child of divorce. My parents didn’t divorce until me and my four siblings were in the adult ages of 27-50.
I know the pain that the mere mention of my father’s name inflicted upon the heart of my mother, every single time his name was mentioned in her presence. A memory of him would bring her heartache.
There wasn’t a day of my mother’s life where her heart wasn’t pierced by the knowledge that the love of her life had torn her heart and her world to shreds.
Divorce is never something your heart can ignore, no matter the age of your children.
When I talk to other children of divorce, the pain is still there for their parents, no matter when the divorce happened, and no matter how advanced in age they were when it occurred. It never ends. It isn’t something you get over. These children can still see the scars that their parents carry, years later.
Modern society wants to make a marriage a partnership, it isn't, it is becoming one with someone.
Bless you.
Thank you.
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