Not wanting his name, and wanting to divorce him isn’t the point.
Divorce doesn’t mean she’ll ever be completely rid of him.
Too many people think that it is possible to walk off into a new life without the burden of their former spouse’s life ever invading their own, because they don’t understand that when there are children, the bonds of parenthood still bind them.
No, she won’t be calling him in desperation begging for child support because she must feed the children and he is a deadbeat father who doesn’t provide for his children’s welfare.
But, he’ll always be somewhere on the edges of her life. Her children will mention his name. He’ll invade their thoughts at birthday celebrations. He’ll take the kids on vacation and then they’ll return to her home and talk about what they did with him. His ghost will always be there.
She’ll have to share their hearts with him, forever.
She is rid of him as a constant source of irritation.
Aren't most of their "kids" grown?...late teens or 20's?