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Relentless optimism of ugly men makes up for unappealing looks
The Telegraph ^
| December 15, 2011
| Nick Collins, Science Correspondent
Posted on 12/16/2011 9:11:09 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
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To: trebb
And, on the flip side, if you are in a relationship and not looking, they also seem to flock towards you. I think their thought is "If he's not in a relationship, then there's something wrong with him. If he IS in a relationship, then there's something right with him".
I experienced this phenomenon when I started going out with the girl I eventually married. I received a LOT more interest. Maybe also the guy who is getting laid on a regular basis seems more confident and less desperate, and that is a turn on for women.
Something like the old saying "A bank won't give you a loan until you can prove you don't need it".
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posted on
12/17/2011 7:31:25 AM PST
by
PapaBear3625
(During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.)
To: Amberdawn
This explains why no doesnt seem to be an operative word with some men... If I took "no" for an answer, I would still be single. Persistence turns "no" into "yes" often enough to keep trying.
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posted on
12/17/2011 7:45:56 AM PST
by
PapaBear3625
(During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.)
To: cantfindagoodscreenname
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posted on
12/17/2011 10:53:15 AM PST
by
potlatch
(*snip*~ Having the right to be angry does not give one the right to be cruel. ~*snip*)
To: trebb
[if you are in a relationship and not looking, they also seem to flock towards you. ]
When I was in college there was an extremely good looking guy in one of my classes and all the girls flocked to him. I never showed an interest and one day after class he stopped me to ask for a date. I turned him down because I was going with someone at the time.
It’s the ‘disinterest’ angle I guess.
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posted on
12/17/2011 10:58:05 AM PST
by
potlatch
(*snip*~ Having the right to be angry does not give one the right to be cruel. ~*snip*)
To: CPOSharky
There have been more women smile and make eye contact with me in the grocery store when my wife is with me than when Im alone. Splain that.
I would posit it's because you are not perceived to be a threat.
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posted on
12/17/2011 11:10:56 AM PST
by
Nachoman
(I HOPE we CHANGE presidents.)
To: PapaBear3625
I was referring to sex, not marriage proposals.
To: CPOSharky
Maybe they think your being married indicates you’re a good mating option, so they want to poach you.
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posted on
12/17/2011 2:53:38 PM PST
by
Tolerance Sucks Rocks
(Occupy DC General Assembly: We are Marxist tools. WE ARE MARXIST TOOLS!)
To: Amberdawn
I was referring to sex, not marriage proposals. So was I.
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posted on
12/17/2011 2:58:13 PM PST
by
PapaBear3625
(During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.)
To: PapaBear3625
Any guy who persisted had better wear armor.
To: Amberdawn
It was more of a “No! My roommate is in the next room! She’ll hear us”, than a “Get away from me, you creep!” sort of no.
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posted on
12/17/2011 4:16:45 PM PST
by
PapaBear3625
(During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.)
To: Tax-chick
Ouch!
But true. People nowdays seem to be shocked when sex results in a child.
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posted on
12/17/2011 4:47:49 PM PST
by
Harmless Teddy Bear
(*Philosophy lesson 117-22b: Anyone who demands to be respected is undeserving of it.*)
To: PapaBear3625
To: Amberdawn
More generally, seduction can be defined as the art of turning an initial "no" into a "yes". It necessarily involves confidence that a "yes" is eventually likely, persistence in working towards that goal, and skill in advancing toward the goal by appropriate stages.
A man who does not have a high degree of willingness to risk failure will not succeed. He needs to have the attitude that a hundred "no"s is an acceptable price for getting one "yes".
Not-so-attractive guys who develop this attitude in their teen years gain an advantage in their adult years when male attractiveness becomes less important than other criteria in determining female receptiveness.
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posted on
12/18/2011 4:34:38 AM PST
by
PapaBear3625
(During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.)
To: PapaBear3625
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posted on
12/20/2011 10:19:37 AM PST
by
longtermmemmory
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