“Nobody puts baby in the corner” changes ever-so-slightly with fatherhood

http://matthewdicks.typepad.com ^ | August 17, 2011 | Matthew Dicks

[A_perfect_lady]

I know. I teach in inner-city Los Angeles. I have seen things that left marks on my retinas. I am convinced that the rate my hair is going gray tripled the night I “chaperoned” my first (and last) middle school dance.

[Hildy]

One of my favorite movies...however, I am a Jewish woman who grew up in the 1960’s. You had to be there.

[Sea Parrot]

Wife and I retook our vows on 50th anniversary last November. We took that for better or worse vow to heart the first time, and I have never regretted it.

[PA Engineer]

Fatherhood changes everything.

Especially if it is a Daughter. This is God's education of Dads.

[PA Engineer]

Can just speak for myself, was 21 years old when our first daughter was born. It then hit me like a ton of bricks, I was now responsible for this child.

That has nothing to do with age! We were in our 30s when we brought are Daughter home. We looked at each other after we put her in the crib for the first time and blurted we were too young for this. Somehow we managed to raise her right.

We talked tonight (iChat) for a long time from college. I reassured her after she finishes her neuro-engineering degree (with a PE License-my requirement) we would put her through medical college (Mom's hope (MD)). Yes!!!!!

[dupree]

This movie had so many problems.

The whole conflict between Baby and her dad over Johnny could have been avoided if she would have just told him that the waiter (was his name Robbie?) was the father of the pregnant girl with a 22-inch Scarlett O’Hara waist’s baby. Or when the dad asks when treating her, “Who’s responsible for this girl?”, and Johnny says, “I am” he gave the false impression that he was the father. Most men in his situation wouldn’t have done that. I could go on and on......

[TexasBarak]

My take on that is that it is healthy for your kids to see some of that- it will help them to handle it themselves in their own future relationships. I *never* saw my parents fight or disagree about anything, and just didn’t know what to do when I encountered that myself, in my first marriage (and there was plenty of it).

When I met the wonderful woman I’m married to now, we set down ground rules for fighting, and we’ve followed them- *say* when you are angry (and why), and no name calling. This has worked out well for us.

So our child sees us have arguments (some quite vehement), but she also sees all of the love and devotion between us- I believe that this will give here the background to handle both of these things in her own life (and she’s gonna have fights with her S.O.- she’s a stubborn little thing!).

[wardaddy]

thank you

and good luck...that sounds great

I tried to get wifey to have one more about a year ago but no way..she’s done

it’s funny to juxtapose youth with what we become...what you are taught early really comes into play...or hard lessons some learn early too

[Fledermaus]

Okay, I say it never follow through, but you two and us really, really, need to have a night out.

Not this weekend, wife is going to her mom’s again.