Posted on 07/23/2011 10:13:44 AM PDT by Immerito
Grand Rapids, Michigan (CNN) -- If you're the kind of parent who allows your 5-year-old to run rampant in public places like restaurants, I have what could be some rather disturbing news for you.
I do not love your child.
The rest of the country does not love your child either.
And the reason why we're staring at you every other bite is not because we're acknowledging some sort of mutual understanding that kids will be kids but rather we want to kill you for letting your brat ruin our dinner.
Or our plane ride.
Or trip to the grocery store.
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Sad but true.
Just saying...
Well, at least they weren't giving their kids the "Zanny the nanny" (Xanax) treatment while they shopped
I’m doing time as well. There is a point we reach where it gets so difficult dealing with snotty adults and bratty children. They think we are nobodys who should be gracious enough to shut-up and take the bull they dish out.
I give with a smile, but in reality I want to slap half of the snotty young women silly.
When my oldest was 8 months old, we were at a restaurant when a loud woman came in and immediately said, "Oh no! Another screaming kid!"(his mouth wasn't even open) My son behaved better than she did.
Last night at Walmart, my son didn’t want to leave the toy asile. we tried carrying him, but he was kicking and screaming. Finally my wife had me take my daughter and pay for our purchases. When I met her at the car, she showed me her arm. He had bitten her hard enough to leave a mark and draw a little blood. She sat him in the back of the van and smacked him hard. We’re afraid to do anything like that in public because we don’t want to go to jail.
I mean... I love my kids. And I don’t treat them like snowflakes. He wants to play video games, but it’s time to get food? He gets yanked off the computer. he’ll scream “That’s not fair!” and our reply is “Life isn’t fair, kid.”
The other day we were grocery shopping, he was acting like a little jerk. Kicking, screaming, yelling “Leave me alone!” I said “That’s it. we’re going to take what we have and leave.” I came back later. But I wasn’t going to tolerate that behavior. I don’t even want to go out in public with him any more. I’ll take care of the shopping. But until he learns how to behave in public, he’ll never see the inside of a resturant or a grocery store.
I was 1 of 4 and now have 5 of my own. We never hesitated to remove one of ours from public when their behavior required it. We worked hard to establish good behavior and predictable consequences early on and like many have said, now rarely have to deal with it now.
What I like to do now, when watching some parent trying to appease thieir little terrorist, is point it out to my kids. Great training for THEM to be good parents to MY eventual grandkids.....
It is the unruly children of undisciplined and uncontrolled parents that make things difficult for the good parents.
We could soon see segregation of “families” from the general public in the name of noise control and cleanliness.
And yes, I have young children.
However, if a parent attempts to curb their brat in public, they run the risk of being reported for child abuse.
I’m a dad of 3 1/2 yro twins. I stand ready to “bring down the house” on them when they cut up at home, in public, or in the truck. That being said, sometimes the world has to keep turning, and sometimes good kids fail be able to keep it together very well—frustrating as it is. At the grocery store, where I rutinely spend $300.00+ a week, if one of the lovely little cashiers ever suggests that perhaps I might be interested in smothering one or both of my children in order to make her or his day at the customer service mill a little less frustrating, I would think that stopping with just a good glaring at would show huge restraint on my part. I too am surprised you didn’t get fired. Just saying. :)
Skillful parenting doesn’t even require corporal punishment to raise polite and well-disciplined children.
Kids need more of what THEY don't like.
I preferred spankings to time out or being grounded. I wanted it over and done with.
Some may blame it on the “I’ll call 911 on you” syndrome, however, listening to our local police on the scanner they are called fairly often to help people with out of control children who are, as often as not, quite young.
This week, a seven year old and a ten year old. We didn’t need any help with our children at 7 or 10 and mom and dad certainly didn’t with us.
LOL. Raine, you’re a woman after my own heart. I was watching The One on TV & becoming more & more PO’ed every second. My 18 yo son walked in the room. I turned to look at him and he said “Sorry, mom.” Me..”Sorry for what?”...Son...”I don’t know. You were giving me The Look.” You have the clenched teeth; I have the slightly jutting lower jaw. Silences everyone in the room.
Reminds me of a comment a friend of mine has for these sort of permissive parent types ... “Payment in lieu of parent.”
They would rather give in to these wee heathens than teach them any sort of acceptable behavior.
As for me, these people need to grow up and be REAL parents to these kids and stop trying to be their friends. Their kids will find or make friends all on their own ... But they only have one set of parents. They need to gut up and start behaving like the parents these kids need and not as the sort the kids like.
Sir, because people spend 300.00 + dollars a week at a grocery store does in no way give them the right to be abusive to workers or allow their children to impede the workers doing their jobs by knocking over merchandise, spinning the bag carousel so the cashier cannot bag merchandise, call the cashier names when we hold the carousel still because we need to bag their merchandise, throw things at us, call us vile names while the parent ignores it, not to leave out the customers who are already angry they have to wait in line and take it out on the cashier who is just trying to do their job.
You try not getting frustrated in that situation on 9 hours a day 5 days a week of repitition when all we are trying to do by doing our jobs is make your lives alittle better while some make ours miserable. I would never wish for a child to be smothered, but watching him kick and slap his mother while having a tantrum was too much.
If you think I should have been fired than fine. It is the only time in all my years as a cashier that I have lost it. I do my job and I do it graciously even under the worst abuse. I respect you for your opinion, but don’t judge until you have walked a mile in our shoes.
Exactly!!! We have a man in our church who's heart is functioning at about 40%. You'd never know how sick he was by looking at him or even hearing him speak. Sometimes he looks tired but, that's about it.
Fully agree. For me, there is a distinct difference between a brat throwing a Screaming Mimi type tantrum and a happy and joyous child sometimes laughing out loud.
A smiling, happy child is an utter joy ... Brats are not.
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