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1 posted on 07/04/2011 4:38:08 PM PDT by Optimus Prime

To: Optimus Prime

There’s a book by Joshua Harris called, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”. It’s very good and deals with what you are talking about.

2 posted on 07/04/2011 4:44:48 PM PDT by bubbacluck (As for me, I'll pay more for tomatoes)

To: Optimus Prime

My ex wife dated too much after we wed.

3 posted on 07/04/2011 4:46:15 PM PDT by umgud

To: Optimus Prime

From your title, I thought you were wondering about dating after the wedding.

5 posted on 07/04/2011 4:58:51 PM PDT by bgill

does this ring a bell?

6 posted on 07/04/2011 5:00:08 PM PDT by tutstar

To: Optimus Prime

7 posted on 07/04/2011 5:02:18 PM PDT by Doogle ((USAF.68-73..8th TFW Ubon Thailand..never store a threat you should have eliminated))

To: Optimus Prime

Sorry, I do not know the article, but in a lot of Orthodox Jewish literature on this subject, you might find some great facts or stats. it is amazing how well the old fashioned matchmaker style engagements work. Not always, but better than your average “met at a bar looking for someone hot to mate with” couple.

Parents and other relatives network among the young eligibles and use a lot of good criteria to pick a great spouse for their child whom they love more than life, and when there is a potential match, there is no hard feeling on either side if after meeting either young person doesn’t feel it’s right.

There are flaws with this system but overall there is so much success because the head comes first in choosing a spouse rather than just the heart (or sex organ!). Imagine someone picks a real wonderful human being for you, with promising future and brains and personailty. That is a lot better than falling in with someone who is cute, good in bed, parties well, etc. Whom you have no idea about their past or family.

Good luck to you.

8 posted on 07/04/2011 5:02:58 PM PDT by Yaelle

To: Optimus Prime

In it, the article pointed out that marriages were much more likely to survive if the couple hadn't dated as much. In other words, a persons marriage was more likely to fail the more partners they'd had prior to their marriage.

Maybe I am showing my age and Catholic upbringing but are we talking about "dating" or are we talking about sexual "partners"?

There used to be a time in America when "I dated Mary last week" did not mean "I slept with Mary last week".

10 posted on 07/04/2011 5:07:12 PM PDT by Polybius

To: Optimus Prime

Looking for article on how dating affects marriage

Affects it badly. My wife told me to stop it or else.

Ba dum dump! CRASH!

11 posted on 07/04/2011 5:37:30 PM PDT by Tanniker Smith (I didn't know she was a liberal when I married her.)

To: Optimus Prime

I hope your not worried about the marriage being successful.
If you are, chances are it will fail.

In a successful marriage, there is not question or doubt.

Where there is doubt there is mistrust... and a marriage will not survive without trust.

12 posted on 07/04/2011 5:37:43 PM PDT by Safrguns

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