Mine, too, with a few exceptions. Once in a while, you see a woman who does everything she can to make sure her child has a stable, good home with stable male influences, but not often enough.
To often, the same immaturity that got them pregnant makes them unable to be good mothers.
I understand that Bristol Palin can afford to pay nannies and such, but look at her child's life so far.
She moved her child away from his father (he doesn't seem to be much of a father, but she went out of the way to pick him). She moved him away from his aunts and uncles and his grandparents.
We can't say that the child won't miss his dad because he has his relatives. She took him thousands of miles away from those people, and now that her own mother has bought a house in the area, she's put her own house up for rent.
She'll either work, or be on a TV show, or whatever she'll do, but either way, her son isn't with family. No dad, no grandfather-as-dad. Soon she'll be moving in with two actors to make a reality series. Another move, another change. No stability. How sad is that?
He'll get to grow up with kids who know what his mother has written about his dad, too. The internet is forever. Think about being a teenager, being told by other kids about how your mom lost her virginity, and how your dad is trash, a "gnat".
Nowadays, most of these baby mamas and their children have very bad lives. And we subsidize it with welfare and other public assistance programs.
I feel so sorry for every child out there who are missing one parent and saddled with another who is selfish. Boys learn to be men when they have fathers. Girls learn about the kind of man they should pick.
We marginalize parenthood and especially fathers at our own risk.
And remember, this is supposed to be a good situation. She's supposed to be a spokesperson and is supposed to have handled things well.
Having the baby is half the job. Making sure the baby has a good, stable home life is the other half.
You said it very well. I think it sums it up when you said that the same immaturity which led to them getting pregnant also makes them unable to be good mothers.
Thanks for putting together the thoughts I was trying to express.
It is so difficult to make the points you make when the subject is transformed from ideas to personalities (the daughter of Gov. Palin in this case).
A most excellent and apt analysis, both in the general and the instant case.