Obviously, he's in the wrong field.
Posted on 06/03/2011 5:44:43 AM PDT by 4Runner
That has been my experience anyway.
Best wishes.
My brother lived in the country and worked in a field in which there were no women, so he used Match.com. He met his wife that way and they have been crazy-happy for about seven years.
I used Match.com too, and I met some very nice men who have remained friends. Unfortunately everybody I met did not want to be a stepfather, much less a stepfather to two (then) teenagers. But we’re still friends. In a way I’m glad this didn’t work out, because since then I’ve become a Catholic, and that wouldn’t have worked out too well with most of these guys. So probably this just wasn’t in God’s plan.
I tried eharmony.com at the same time, but they kept fixing me up with guys who had absolutely not a single living thing in common with me. The men and I just looked at each other and wondered what the heck the eharmony computer was thinking, if anything.
Anyway, I’ve pretty much given up. I’m over 50 now so it’s not realistic anymore to think I’d meet a man.
I met my wife on GrovelingMonkeyFetish.com, and we’ve never been happier.
I’m married now, but years ago, I tried E-Harmony. Took a day or so before it made any matches, but then the floodgates gradually opened, until I got dozens per day. My only guess is that when there are no successful matches, initially, it simply broadened the critieria. Maybe they got enough complaints about poor matches that they quit doing that. Because no matter how much I tried to emphasize that I was a very conservative, orthodox, practicing Catholic interested in Christian morality including no sex before marriage, it seemed like 90% of my matches led off with a personal description saying something like “I found Dan Brown’s novels so sexually liberating!”
YUCK!
No matter how much I hate 99% of the “I’d hit that” and “Not Guilty!” crowd, you always manage to crack me up. It’ll be interesting to see which wins out: my curiosity to know whether GrovelingMonkeyFetish.com is real, or my extremely rational fear of googling for it.
Obviously, he's in the wrong field.
>> I suspect there are fewer conservative women than there are conservative men which makes it difficult regardless of how you are looking. That has been my experience anyway. <<
A lot of women become a lot more conservative once they find a man who provides them with security and love. Look for someone sincerely seeking out love, and don’t worry if they’re going about it the wrong way. You should be able to discern very quickly if they are receptive to increasing their relationship with Christ.
>> I suspect there are fewer conservative women than there are conservative men which makes it difficult regardless of how you are looking. That has been my experience anyway. <<
A lot of women become a lot more conservative once they find a man who provides them with security and love. Look for someone sincerely seeking out love, and don’t worry if they’re going about it the wrong way. You should be able to discern very quickly if they are receptive to increasing their relationship with Christ.
(That advice presumes that you are self-aware of your own weaknesses, and confident of your own ability to resist temptation; A Christian who has heroically avoided the “near occasions of sin” may find that advice dangerous, if they are not unaccustomed to their resistance being tested.)
Congrats!!!
Lovely, lovely. < /s>
I don’t understand why “compatilibilty” is such a big factor with these sites. eHarmony would never have placed my wife and me on the same planet.
I almost think your profile revealed you as somebody who's a bit touchy and prone to, erm... forcefully expressing his opinions.
There is undoubtedly a woman somewhere who's patient enough to deal with that, and perceptive enough to see your better points despite the tendency. (I married such a woman, so I know it's possible.)
The success of an on-line matchmaker, otoh, depends on finding matches that seem to work well on first contact. Their matching model does not deal well with people whose personalities are somewhat prickly.
I dunno... I think the one on camera’s right kinda likes you.
To understand it, you first have to realize that on-line dating sites are nothing more than a way for people to shop for mates, in the same way people look for cars or houses. People think they know what/who they want in a mate, and they're in a hurry to get it.
You generally will not buy a car or a house that you initially dislike -- not when you can get something that does fit, elsewhere. People are looking for the same thing in mates, when they go to these sites.
And the site operators know this, and they cater to it. "Compatibility" is their bread and butter.
And the relationships they create -- while no doubt genuine -- seem to me to be built rather like the houses in a subdivision: sterile and mass-produced, built according to a template, and of somewhat uncertain durability; rather than being unique, somewhat quirky, and therefore somehow more robust, like the homes in older parts of towns.
They absolutely need you to like, or at least, not hate, the people with whom they set you up. Too many bad experiences, and you give up on them, and they go out of business.
Hence their reliance personality tests. The problem with those tests, is that they have no room for people like you and your wife, whose relationship probably bloomed among the imponderables that the on-line personality tests cannot possibly capture.
There are reasons why I'm looking for a conservative and why I don't want to find any woman and hopes she turns conservative. First of which is that I've done that and it didn't work for me.
“They say for every boy and girl/there’s just one love in this whole world/ and I found you...’’ Congratulations , best of everything..
Yet another reason why we need Freep-Harmony—a website for conservative singles.
;-)
“A: eHarmony has been sold, and likely the new owners changed around a lot of NCW’s original 29 compatibility parameters and made them more PC.”
That would explain why conservatives are being rejected these days.
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