[Disambiguator]

So, what's the reason they speak with a lisp? That's always been a mystery to me.

And why does it happen only AFTER they "come out?"

I think they have a super-secret finishing school they go to, where they learn "the talk" and "the walk" and the rest of the affectations of flamerdom.

[Windflier]

And why does it happen only AFTER they "come out?"

I suppose they don't know many other gays until after they're emancipated as young adults, then flock to their own, and begin picking up the 'culture'.