Posted on 05/21/2011 1:18:37 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows
We all know this guy — or are this guy: in his 30s, affable, attractive, and yet he’s never been in a serious long-term relationship. And as his single status stretches into a third decade, one has to wonder: What’s the deal? Far from being undateable, this guy may simply not be ready to change his independent ways. Or, he may be all too willing to do so — but something’s blocking him. If you feel you may fall into the latter category (or know someone who does), stop worrying about what’s slowing you down and read on to learn about how five types of die-hard bachelors contribute to their perpetually single status and what steps to take to break the cycle.
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Good hunting!
Yeah, she is pretty great.
Still waiting for the psycho moment that most women display (O my god, did I really say that ?????? Cue Larry the Cable guy)
She is damn nice to have around instead of the usual crap that women put men through.
I strongly disagree.
Actually, why look when all you can do is window shop? There are plenty of good women out there, but such men figure that all that could come out of that relationship is unceasing hard work, grinding poverty, divorce, and maybe even children denied a decent upbringing.
If by leaving them alone, those women and their children might have a chance, when even if she truly and deeply wants to be with him, he knows that all he can give won’t even be enough for them as a couple to break even.
Why inflict that on another person?
If he just grows old and dies as a bachelor, while none will celebrate his life, at least none will hate and curse him.
Who could tell you “it’s over”?? You’re a doll
Sounds reasonable to me. and I’m a woman.
“but such men figure that all that could come out of that relationship is unceasing hard work, grinding poverty, divorce, and maybe even children denied a decent upbringing.”
There’s just as much risk for a woman I’m sure.
Well, it’s very important to say what you feel. I find it odd when couples take emotions for granted, or assume the other person “knows” how they feel. Well, they may know, but that isn’t the same as hearing it. People also forget the little kindnesses, the thank yous, etc. A good relationship/marriage isn’t “work” but it does require effort (but that effort should be made gratefully).
You nailed it. I’m like you, most women turn me off and even the ones that seem good too often just - aren’t.
My last one was older than me, 3 grown kids, conservative and very active in politics. Awesome woman in every way. We had a great relationship, had alot of fun, bright future together. I had known her for a couple of years before dating and she was the same woman all the time.
Got a tiny lateral promotion to a supervisor and within a month became this conceited, country-club-wannabe, gold-digging beeotch out for the biggest bank account she could find. Ran to someone else and wasn’t even going to tell me it was over. Became a complete and total jerk overnite. She was and is nothing more than a low level peon and everyone knows it but her. All because of a tiny taste of power.
I shared the details because I see variations of that same pattern of instability and immaturity in alot of women. It’s as if they just can’t grow up and cope with anything on the adult level. You have to roll with life a bit and take things in stride. The brittleness and emotional fragility of women today is beyond what I can work with. The smallest tide just seems to wash them away.
I’ve suspected that for some time. He needs to join the party of Bawney Fwank.
That must be because there are so many woman out there looking for a 1300 word rule book explaining what is expected of them in exchange for the honor of your company.
I’m 35 and I have not been in a committed relationship for over 10 years. I really would like to, however, it seems no matter where I look, all I find are liberalized brainwashed immature little girls who habitually hop from man to man. The sad truth for American men these days is if you’re looking for a strong, dependable, faithful and loyal woman with conservative principles, you’re pretty much screwed. The few that are out there get grabbed up fast. I admit I do live in Austin TX, so I do understand this is a bad pond to fish for a good woman, but you simply have to work with what you got, sadly.
:)
Yes, indeed. So the question remains for both, “Though my family expects me to try and live a life like my parents lived, is it better to try, with the odds stacked against me and a potential spouse, fail, and harm others, or just not to try, stay on my own, and harm no one?”
*look_of_pure_innocence*
That’s just the mindless conventional wisdom, which is extremely prevalent in Minnesota. Of course I am not following it! However the women up here do mindlessly follow it.
It’ll happen and it will be just a moment.
Making up is................fun! LOL
Cute kids!
True. My version of a great relationship:
You’re still dating a great gal.
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