30 year olds are not children...they are not really even young adults. My husband and I were laughing about that the other day. We were talking about our sons and calling them *boys*. The youngest is now 30. They are all men (all married and living on their own and supporting themselves).
It seriously depends on what these people who live with their parents are doing. Are they making any attempt to take care of themselves? Are they sitting around playing video games? Are they helping out? I do think we do a huge disservice when we give them everything an adult gets when they are 16 (sex, cars, big kid toys) but don’t shove them out into the cold cruel world to let them also get the hard knocks that adults take.
So, you may disagree with me, and that’s fine, I can take it, it’s what FR is all about (I don’t ascribe to the—”If you disagree with me you are a liberal or an idiot or a troll!” mentality that so many here seem to). And there is some merit in what you say. But there are also a lot of ungrown up *kids* who would be living on you and me if Mom and/or Dad were not taking care of them.
I am not talking about “failure to launch” kids, who sit in their parent’s basement and play video games all day.
I mean, the idea that productive kids should not live with their parents seems, to me, silly.
My grandparents had a farm... my great uncle lived on one corner, my uncle on another, my cousins on a couple more ...everybody worked the farm, and at other jobs.
My parents were considered wierd, because they ran off to the big city.