I am not talking about “failure to launch” kids, who sit in their parent’s basement and play video games all day.
I mean, the idea that productive kids should not live with their parents seems, to me, silly.
My grandparents had a farm... my great uncle lived on one corner, my uncle on another, my cousins on a couple more ...everybody worked the farm, and at other jobs.
My parents were considered wierd, because they ran off to the big city.
Well, I think that’s fine, but I didn’t take that to be what this article was about. Maybe so. Most of the people I know with kids living with them have kids who haven’t ever really done anything (or girls who have split from boyfriends and have kids, and now they need someone to support them). And I don’t blame grandparents for taking them in. I wouldn’t toss my grandkids out to the wolves. In fact, to be honest, I probably wouldn’t toss my kids out either, altho I have on occasion done some tough love.
I do think families living together, if everyone is pulling their weight is fine tho. I think it’s how things were intended to be. Living in isolation is not normal, and I agree with you there. When I was in high school we lived next door to my grandparents for 2 years. It was awesome. I will always treasure that. Having moved around a lot growing up (Dad was military and then worked for defense contractors) it was the only time I had been near them physically). I was especially glad since my Grandfather passed away not many years later after I was married.
But, the kids who stay home because they would rather be taken care of are the ones that concern me.