“Is being married more than one time perversion?”
Not if the the former spouse dies.
I have always held to three acceptable reasons for divorce; addiction, adultery and abuse. My first marriage ended because my former spouse was engaged in two of the three and I put up with it for as long as I could. My new bride of almost one year now suffered through much of the same things as I did.
I don’t apologize for choosing a) not to be a doormat for an abusive whore and b) choosing to be happy in a new relationship.