Posted on 03/20/2011 7:03:47 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
As long as your celebate and not gay, I don’t see the problem.
Or a pedophile but maybe thats covered under the gay thing
In my experience, never-married men are very underrepresented in churches.
My mother's pastor is single, and I believe my mother would agree with you.
People who are single into their 30s and 40s also want someone who can relate to them, too.
You know, a lot of people are hung up the “husband of one wife thing” but it never seems to apply to never married only divorced men. It seems to me everyone is hung up on something but Jesus was the only one “Hung Up” on a cross.
I was told by a Pastor friend of mine that years ago Pentecostal churches strongly suggested marriage to their ordained Pastors, because the feeling was that if you were married, you wouldn’t fall into a sinful relationship with any female members of the congregation.
Just tell them that your a widow by choice.
I think the single girls like the idea.
I personally know of one who landed the handsome single pastor. They now have three kids and I firmly believe are very much in love. She had been the director of music but I don’t think she has done that anymore. She does sing specials sometimes and has a pro voice.
**As long as your [sic] celebate [sic] and not gay, I don’t see the problem.**
Would you say the same about a Catholic priest who is celibate?
Ted Haggard, Eddie Long, Jim Bakker, Jimmy Swaggart, and that’s just what I can remember in my lifetime. It’s silly to think that marriage prevents immorality.
Being Catholic, I don’t care if a Pastor of a Protestant church is single or not. And I don’t think being single means you can’t relate to certain people or situations, and I don’t believe being single makes you more likely to be a child molester as many perverts marry just to cover up their true self.
But I do have an Aunt that says her church prefers their Pastors to be married because usually the spouse takes a big role in the church and organizes church groups, teaches Sunday school, etc. She even says years ago their Pastor wasn’t so great but his wife was wonderful and held bake sales for the church where she baked everything herself and she was a professional pastry chef. Hey, whatever fills the pews!!
Ditto, that.
Bingo.
And that is not in any way a minor detail, nor is it something that can be fully understood without experiencing life as a couple.
Some congregations have other preferences for similar reasons. A church focused on outreach to a large population of addicts may specifically search for someone who was an addict, or grew up in a home with substance abusing parents.
There is a place in the body of Christ for every one, but not every place may be best filled by just any willing applicant. The elders who make a call for a congregation are tasked with finding a proper fit. They may make mistakes, but these sorts of requirements for different congregations are necessary.
The true issue is not if your status is single or married, it’s all about HOW you live it.
I see almost a schizophrenia in churches where they tell the singles to be content in their lot in life, yet they center most or all of their programming around marriage, children and family ministries. Single young women will attend a family-oriented church, but I don’t think as many single men will.
We have a single pastor (associate pastor albeit) that is adored and revered. I am however, in a large metropolitan area, so the needs of many need to be served, and he has found a comfortable niche with our youth. Is your focus perhaps too limited in population size?
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