The thing about “gay” cities is that straight people don’t really enjoy gay places so much as gay people enjoy straight places.
Straight movie theatres show Hollywood movies. Gay theatres show porn.
Gay people can go to straight places and not feel out of place, because everyone there is just acting like a normal person, which I believe gays can, and often publicly do, do. But labeling something “gay” is like giving anyone who visits a license for licentiousness.
So your saying you couldn’t act normal at a gay bath house? Bigot.