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Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Wall Street Journal ^ | JANUARY 8, 2011 | AMY CHUA

Posted on 01/10/2011 4:21:49 PM PST by nickcarraway

Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?

A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:

have a playdate

• be in a school play

• complain about not being in a school play

• watch TV or play computer games

• choose their own extracurricular activities

• get any grade less than an A

• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama

• play any instrument other than the piano or violin

• not play the piano or violin.

I'm using the term "Chinese mother" loosely. I know some Korean, Indian, Jamaican, Irish and Ghanaian parents who qualify too. Conversely, I know some mothers of Chinese heritage, almost always born in the West, who are not Chinese mothers, by choice or otherwise. I'm also using the term "Western parents" loosely. Western parents come in all varieties.

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TOPICS: Education; Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: chinesemothers; freetrade
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1 posted on 01/10/2011 4:21:51 PM PST by nickcarraway
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There are definitely lessons to be learned from the "Chinese" way of raising kids.

However, there are other aspects I would never recommend & in fact disadvantage their kids in this society.

2 posted on 01/10/2011 4:28:45 PM PST by skeeter
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To: nickcarraway
Why Epstein is smart, by Epsteins Mother
3 posted on 01/10/2011 4:29:01 PM PST by Jolla
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To: nickcarraway

Wow. The woman is proud that she denied her daughters PLAY DATES?

It sounds like those children had no childhood whatsoever.


4 posted on 01/10/2011 4:30:59 PM PST by Politicalmom (America-The Land of the Sheep, the Home of the Caved.)
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To: nickcarraway

Well, they can certainly wash and iron better than anybody. Outside of that, I’m skeptical.


5 posted on 01/10/2011 4:32:08 PM PST by LouAvul
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To: nickcarraway

Years ago we were acquainted with a Chinese couple who owned a restaurant. They didn’t believe in sitters for their two kids so they were always at work with Mom and Dad. When the two became too unruly Mom took them to the backyard and tied them to the clothesline pole.


6 posted on 01/10/2011 4:32:46 PM PST by abigailsmybaby ("If they bring a knife to the fight, we'll bring a gun". BHO)
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To: nickcarraway

Wow, somebody is going to not have many visitors in the old folks home.


7 posted on 01/10/2011 4:36:41 PM PST by central_va (I won't be reconstructed, and I do not give a damn.)
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To: nickcarraway
And this sort of crap is why the suicide rate in Japan is so high.

I agree that most Western parents are too lenient and too obsessed with being "friends" with their kids. But...

Not everyone can get an "A" or be #1 in every subject. And sports are important for building character.

8 posted on 01/10/2011 4:36:46 PM PST by Lysandru
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To: nickcarraway

Cause they drown the daughters in the river at birth?


9 posted on 01/10/2011 4:37:23 PM PST by Frantzie (Slaves do not have freedom only the illusion of freedom & their cable TV to drool at)
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To: Politicalmom

We didn’t have play dates that our mothers set up for us. We went down the street to our friend’s house and asked if they could come out and play. Or we went around the neighborhood finding as many kids as we could to play baseball in the vacant lot. Play dates...sheesh.


10 posted on 01/10/2011 4:39:23 PM PST by FrdmLvr (Death to tyrants)
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To: Lysandru

Yeah. Most telling is the breakdown a lot of these kids (and lots of kids of every ethnic and cultural background pushed onto a med school track) have when they are forced into chemistry & organic chemistry classes in college, which have -real curves-. So not everyone can get an A. In fact, almost no one is going to get an A. Lots of them completely fall apart and have a hard time figuring out it is what they really want to be. Almost worse off are some of the people who do well and only have that breakdown when they’re out of their residency and realized they wanted to be a reporter or a chef or a businessman.


11 posted on 01/10/2011 4:41:56 PM PST by socalgop
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To: LouAvul

LOL


12 posted on 01/10/2011 4:42:00 PM PST by patriot08 (TEXAS GAL- born and bred and proud of it!)
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To: nickcarraway

I am a Mom to three beautiful children. All of them have different gifts. I would never DEMAND that they get straight A’s. I would never demand that they never have friends or socialize. I would never expect them to be perfect. I’m not so why would I expect them to be. One item not mentioned is the stress caused to many children by overbearing parents. I remember in college a junior student (Asian) jumping from a window killing himself. Why? He got a “B” in a science class. Demanding that your kids do the best that THEY can is better than demanding that they live out some sort of fantasy childhood. Just a thought.


13 posted on 01/10/2011 4:46:11 PM PST by momtothree
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To: socalgop; All

“...people who do well and only have that breakdown...”

I had a school mate in high school. Tall, dark, and handsome, Pres. of the Honor Society, Football Captain, siiigh!! With same last initial we often sat near each other—he was better in math, I was better in English, so we helped each other. Later hear he flunked out of Rennsalear(sp?) Polytech, oh well. Wish I knew how he actually turned out.


14 posted on 01/10/2011 4:58:41 PM PST by gleeaikin
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To: nickcarraway
So, what happens when the kid comes home with a "B"? Keelhauling?

I believe in strict parenting, but what this describes is simple cruelty.

15 posted on 01/10/2011 5:00:00 PM PST by jboot
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Actualizatuion of ones potential is WORK!

Chinese and Jewish parents know this.

They know that work is part of life, and thus expect their offspring to work.

Works for them.

The test scores, and the number of Nobel Prizes tell the tale.

PS Moslim Nobel winners are, as Twain said of another group, “almighty scarce, Sir - they are almighty scarce”.


16 posted on 01/10/2011 5:03:59 PM PST by GladesGuru (In a society predicated upon freedom, it is essential to examine principles,)
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To: jboot

Almost all the local Korean families have been visited by social services. They seem to be enamored with beating young kids with sticks to make a point about grades.


17 posted on 01/10/2011 5:05:19 PM PST by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: nickcarraway

So what do these “Chinese mothers” do when their child is developmentally disabled? Kill them?!


18 posted on 01/10/2011 5:06:03 PM PST by Soothesayer (smallpox is not a person)
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To: Soothesayer
Yes, I couldn't find that Poster of the "Useless eaters" the Nazis had during the 30's, But Communism (China) Progressives (The US)* National Socialism (Germany) call it what you will, they still have the same solutions for all those "people they don't want"

*See Buck V. Bell for more

19 posted on 01/10/2011 5:11:58 PM PST by KC_Lion (Lord help our Armed Service members that they not become pawns in Hussein's quest to destroy America)
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To: nickcarraway

Why not be more accurate and say “the way our grandfathers and grandmothers did it”?


20 posted on 01/10/2011 5:16:40 PM PST by Secret Agent Man (I'd like to tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.)
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