Who gave you the authority to assume how others perceive NoGrayZone's family's spirituality? Why are you attacking those who gave suggestions? Why are you lifting yourself above all others, up on a pedestal? Where has anyone said that she is not spiritual? May I suggest lowering the dosage of ego.
I know if I was going through a difficult situation as NoGrayZone is, I would listen to the most obvious mundane suggestion. Maybe that one silly suggestion is something that may have slipped my mind doing during strenuous times.
Right now NoGrayZone has an added chore of sifting the wheat from the chaff suggestions. God will lead her to the right one. The one that will bring Peace to her family.
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