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The comments coming from FReepers blaming her and her parents makes me just sick. I don't hear ONE WORD about the savages who did the bullying. It's the old condemn the victim and remain silent about the bullies. The blame is being placed on the wrong person.

I agree with you. Maybe back in the 1950s, it was enough to punch a bully in the nose. These days, you are likely to get a gang of kids after you with guns and knives. At best, YOUR child, the victim, will be the one getting the suspension or even expulsion in this touchy-feely climate of "zero tolerance" for violence.

This "zero tolerance" policy for violence is a joke by the way. It is far more damaging for a child to be verbally taunted and shunned by his/her classmates day after day than to be involved in a schoolyard fistfight. Yet under the "no tolerance for violence" policy, this sort of psychological bullying is running rampant and there is absolutely nothing the victim can do about it because as a resort of this bullying, the victim is all alone and isolated.

Further, in this age of technology, the victims of this type of bullying cannot get away from it once they leave the school property. They must contend with it online as well and must deal with the fact that no matter where they go online, their tormentors will be sure to follow them, unless they find a way to be totally anonymous or take on a fake identity.

That said, let me tell you a personal story that goes back to 1978. At that time, I was still in high school and I became the target of a gang of bullies. One kid in particular was especially vicious and in chemistry class, he spend the entire period shooting spitballs into the back of my head and calling me names, getting lots of giggles from the kids around him. He was just having a grand old time while the teacher totally ignored what was happening. Well after class, I stood outside the door and when he came out, I smashed him in the face with my fist as hard as I could.

You can predict the results. The chemistry teacher marched me to the principal's office and told him he did not want "my type" in his class anymore. I was suspended from school for a week and had to spend the rest of the school year in study hall and retake chemistry in summer school with a different teacher.

But that's not the worst of it. A few nights later, the kid who I punched brought some of his friends by my house (when we weren't home) and tossed bricks through my front windows. They spray-painted obscene graffiti (using my name doing obscene sexual acts) across my front door and did other vandalism about the property.

I knew it was them because the next few days at school, that particular gang get smiling at me in the hallways and asked me how I liked the "redecorating" of my house.

Now my parents were hard-working people who didn't have much money. SO I had to watch them spend what little money they had to fix up the house as they didn't have insurance for that sort of thing. That was the worst punishment of all. So for the remainder of my school years, I learned to suck it up and tolerate the bullying because I didn't have a "gang" to back me up. Needless to say, my "public education" was pretty much a hell on earth as the bullies basically ran the school. The teachers did nothing - they just wanted to collect their paychecks and go home at night.

SO for all those who sit in their easy chairs and post here how victims should just "punch the bullies in the nose", they can go back to watching their movies like "Christmas Story" and "Back to the Future." In the real world, getting rid of bullies is not that easy.

What we need to do is toss bullies out of school, period. Society does not owe bullies an education. Let them spend their adult lives pumping gas and picking up garbage.

THat is a horrible story. Wonder what happened to the bullies. Your positon of having to suck it up to protect your parents is so sad but so brave.

THANK YOU for sharing that.

I spent enough of my years on the receiving end of bullying, and our house has also been the target of anonymous bullies who didn’t like one of my kids (as we found out years later) although not as bad as your situation.

It’s time to BLAME THE BULLIES and put a stop to them.

The bad parents are the ones who raised the animals, not the ones who *didn’t teach their kids to fight back* (an ASSumtion if I ever heard one)

>>SO for all those who sit in their easy chairs and post here how victims should just “punch the bullies in the nose”, they can go back to watching their movies like “Christmas Story” and “Back to the Future.” In the real world, getting rid of bullies is not that easy. <<

TRUTH BE TOLD!

At the first sign of bullying, I snapped my daughter out of school quicker than a heartbeat.

She will go back to “society” when she is 18 and has abuse laws behind her. As well as a self-defense course and an education that makes her valued at her job,