Posted on 08/21/2010 5:33:38 AM PDT by goodwithagun
Background: My aunt was the child who always got what she wanted, even when there was no money for it. She graduated from high school a year early to marry her boyfreind. She and the preacher's son had two kids. When my aunt divorced her cheating husband she lived on his child support. She'd never had to support herself in her life. When that stopped she moved in with low-life scum. Low-life scum recently kicked her to the curb. My cousin, her daughter, used her bonus check to secure an appartment while making it clear that she and her husband could not support her. My aunt would have to get a job. She is now manipulating everyone by trying to get us to support her. She has problems that we can't solve. My cousin is heartbroken that this is not working and her mother is putting her through an emotional ringer. My mother and my other aunt thought they were getting their sister back (she had estranged herself from my mom and other aunt years ago when she moved in with low-life scum) and now they are emotionally spent from this. Prayer is the only thing that can help at this point. Please and thank you.
Prayers that your Aunt wakes up before she helps to destroys the whole family!
With personal experience with this type of situation, I suggest RUN, not walk, from this situation. Judging from your opening lines, and language throughout, there is love but intense dissatisfaction with her behaviors. As I said earlier, I have had personal experience with this type of personality and it is TOXIC. You’ll just have to let her go about this her own way, unless she will change, and I doubt that. I was hopeful that way. It truly is a gut wrenching experience. But tell her you love her and always will.
Good luck, my prayers are with you.
I pray she comes to her senses. You can let her know that you are ALL there for her when she is ready to be part of the family again.
We have had similar heartbreak in our family. I know your pain. Prayer is the only answer and there are many good prayer warriors that will see this.
God bless you all.
Prayers for your aunt and the family.
Prayers up!
Sounds like tough love is in order. Give her a period of time to find a way to become self sufficient and then cut her off financially.
That’s the problem. This was supposed to be that period. She has two month’s rent and that amount of time to find a job. She has an interview at Kroger but we don’t know how that went. She could do anything though. Clean houses, babysit. I just don’t know what to do. We will not financially support her and she seems to think that is going to happen.
I won’t gainsay the value of prayer but you aunt might also profit from a boot to the backside. No offense to anyone intended but it sounds like it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee
My prayers are in agreement with yours.
Hunger is a great motivator.
Is it possible for ALL of you to get together, get your bottom line defined (probably already is, but it doesn’t hurt to review it), and then have her join you for a “come to Jesus meeting,” like an intervention?
All of you need prayers. I have dealt with people like this and it is exhausting. They always try to blame others for the consequences of their decisions. Don’t let her claim that all of you are allowing her to drown when she is the one that is willingly jumping off the bridge, against everyone’s advice, into the raging waters.
Prayers for your family.
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