I’m sorry you’re going through this. I went through a somewhat similar situation a couple years ago after 25 years of marriage. It was painful, but I have grown and am now happier than I ever was before. Best of luck to you AND your husband. May he find relief from his addictions and may you find peace.
I hear that. We just had our 15th Wedding Anniversay; been together 18 years. No acknowledgement from him at all. His problems started in earnest about 5 years into our marriage when he had his first surgery.
We split up once before, and I thought we had gotten past this, but I guess not.
I have my own thinking to do, too. Why I let this go on right under my nose for so long is my own issue to deal with.