What state are you guys in?
My sister moved to NV last year, after living 50+ years in CA.
I think her metamorphosis began about a dozen years ago. She came to visit us when we moved from West TX to D/FW. Her jaw about dropped when she saw the school facilities my kids had vs. the crap her kids had in Oakland.
What really threw her off her game were the total strangers that simply said "Hi, how ya doin". LOL!