Posted on 04/26/2010 8:55:19 PM PDT by Free ThinkerNY
I am in a similar position.
Somethings aren’t worth the cost of your soul, including plies of money.
Sometimes it’s just not worth it... No matter how much money is involved, frankly. I could have contested my father’s will last year, but ultimately decided I didn’t want anything from him anyway — he was abusive and it would have felt like he had bought me off or something (at least that’s the view I have of my sister who (somehow) ignored what happened to us (or stayed in denial), and sucked up to him for everything. I was “dis-inherited” because I dared to stand up to him and tell the truth to the authorites - twice (once regarding him abusing my sister, and once regarding his neglect and fraud in relation to my mother’s medical care — he was found guilty of child abuse, and then later of elder abuse).
In my book I’d rather tell the truth than fight for something that in the end is meaningless. (Although it did make for some very hard times emotionally when he passed last year... my sister and I are estranged, and I don’t see any way to repair the relationship as she shows no indication of wanting to...)
Anyway, just thought my story may give you a different outlook on the 3rd sister in this matter.
AMEN, TC!!! Read my post directly below yours (and above this one). I understand EXACTLY what you mean! And you are right on target — sometimes it would be like selling your soul for riches...
Thank you.
It is tough, but abuse for money never removes the abuse. It is not worth it. There is a reason the Bible tells parents to not discourage their children. Abuse with a prospect of never being accepted causes estrangement. It is not always the children’s fault. How do you honor a parent who knows NOT what honor is?
I battle my bitterness, while forgiving from a safe distance. It is not easy, but worthwhile for my souls sake.
I wouldn’t touch one penny of his greed stained money.
That is how I think about it.
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