1. I never liked idea of a man cutting my hair let alone one who was obviously gay.
2. I did not want that man close enough to touch 1 hair on my 3 year old sons head.
I am sure he was a very nice man who was probably disease free and most likely was not a child molester, but I couldn't help but think I was a bad father if I allowed him to cut our hair. On the other hand, I felt guilty for possibly being a homophobe. I erred on the side of my son.
For the record, I have no problem with gay men, I just don't want my kids exposed or indoctrinated into their lifestyle. If it were a lesbian I probably wouldn't think twice about letting her cut my hair. Obviously, I have a double standard.
Any thoughts?
TheArizona
Go with your gut, Dad.
You are the only father your son will have. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
The guy was presenting himself in a flagrant way. That was his decision. You get to decide who you are comfortable with.
> His fingernails were painted black and had an obvious gay accent.
What does an “obvious gay accent” sound like?
Black nail polish? Goths and Emos both do that: some are gay, some aren’t. Some would beat the stuffing out of anyone suggesting that they were gay. And some would do it just for fun, just because they can.
> Any thoughts?
Yup. I think you’re looking for validation with this vanity post, for somebody to say “attaboy! Good for you, you’re not gay!”
I can’t see any other reason for this Vanity. Which leads me to wonder why you would need Validation...
I would have went somewhere else.
Don’t support freaks!
You were politically incorrect. You were not wrong.
Andy:
Ya know Floyd, I really would not worry what Howard Sprague said ...*ouch*... but did you happen to notice the flies were still hoverin' over Aunt Bee's pickles until that dandy from Mt. Pilot threatened to put on a play? Now that boy could draw flies ...
Floyd:
oh yes!... i mean ...no Andy ....ah gee
Get a Flow-Bee.
A brain surgen with 'BORN TO LOSE' tattooed on his hand.
A funeral director who says 'Hope to see you folks again real soon.'
A waitress with a visible infection on her serving hand.
An airline pilot wearing two different shoes.
A proctologist with poor depth perception.
A dentist with blood in his hair.
Nam Vet
You need to do what you feel comfortable with. One thing is to consider the authority figures (and to a 3-year-old, his hairdresser IS an authority figure) you wish around your son.
My older son, when he was little, had — at a kiddie hair salon, mind you!! — a hairdresser who was full of piercings all over. He was good with hair, and a nice, docile person, but I couldn’t take the piercings, and didn’t want my son to think that trashing your body was OK, so I stopped going there after a few times.
Your #1 is silly. Men go to male hairdressers (BARBERS!) all the time.
Personally, if it was just you and not your son, I think you could have let that guy do your hair. But I get it with regards to your little boy for sure.
The Torah is very clear what the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob thinks about them.
Don't look to FR for agreement. Look to God.
For the record, I look to God the Father - and am redeemed through His Son Jesus Christ.
Figured you were a newbie. I think you’re here just to make FR look bad. I don’t buy your story for a second. But nice try.
I think you are being a tad bit irrational. The “gay” isn’t contagious and I seriously doubt any harm would have come to your child right there in the middle of the salon in front of everyone. Besides, gay male hairdressers are pretty darn good! I hate that mine retired. :(
You're young, you can still learn. Let me try to help you out. Here are my beliefs on homosexuality: I don't agree with the gay lifestyle and have no desire to see it glorified. I also take no pleasure in seeing it bashed. I bear no grudge or ill will towards gay people. My philosophy is live and let live. They have their lives and I have mine.
Now, here comes the important lesson: Though I cannot speak for everybody, this is the way the majority of conservatives think and it is the way the majority of Americans think. We are not obsessed with homosexuality, either with praising it or bashing it. Try looking at conservatives as people, not caricatures. You'll get a much more accurate view.
It's up to you who you select to cut you and your son's hair, and you are being a good father by doing everything you can to protect your young son, but:
1. I don't think you need to worry about the child molester angle. For one thing you would be sitting right there. Also the real child molesters often don't seem gay at all.
2. Likewise how much "lifestyle indoctrination" is he going to be able to do during a haircut?
3. I also go to Great Clips. I very often find that the hair dressers I am dreading based on first impressions actually do a very good job. There is one guy who has cut my hair a few times who I always assumed was gay, partly because of his job. But I found out he has kids.
4. There was a guy who used to cut hair for members of my family. 150% gay. I was usually out of town so I only went there once. He helped to take care of my father after a stroke. Used his skills to prepare indigent dead people for burial. He was a good citizen and a good person.
“1. I never liked idea of a man cutting my hair...”
I think you have ‘issues’.
I’ve had gay men cut my hair and they’ve somehow managed to not rape me in the chair.
Still, it’s your call. People choosing to wait for one barber while another has nothing to do happens all the time where my son and I go. The gay guy probably didn’t care.
Immoral? No. Wrong? Yes.
It's called good parenting.
Don't second guess yourself here.