Posted on 10/25/2009 1:34:25 PM PDT by FourPeas
It gets better. Said unemployeed nephew showed up at our door just over a week ago, after we didn't respond to his email asking if he could come and stay with us while he looked for a job. He drove nearly 1000 miles expecting us to let him sleep in his truck parked on our driveway. Of course, he had a sob story. After a few days of being gone for 2-3 hours each, he's says he's now found a job...we'll see. He's been careful not to expect us to provide coffee, meals, laundry, gas for his truck, etc.
During a discussion with my nephew, a 30-something unemployed laborer, about how we pay to dispose of our trash, he emphatically stated that he would never work collecting garbage, especially not in the summer. The response came automatically without hesitation from my husband: it seems the safety net and minimum wage is too high in our country if we can't find people to do jobs like that. My nephew didn't say anything after that, but I'm sure the truth hurts, especially when it comes from his favourite uncle.
At least it sounds like you’re doing the right thing.
Nope, but I’ve worked plenty of job I absolutely hated but kept working until I could find something better. The bottom line is he’s a husband and father. He needs to support his family even if it means doing something nasty.
My husband serviced commercial scales, which sometimes involved shoveling lice to be able to get to the components. It was disgusting work, but it paid his bills until he could find something better.
Much better that it was in the days of when I was in high school. Thank goodness.
Right now we need to develop a plan for at what point we let him know it’s time to go.
Know all about the good deed unpunished and helping so called friends. It only took one expensive adventure to end that with me for life. Unless it is a blood relative and one of the good ones, I want no part of being any help.
I understand. Going to sponge off my family for a year or two to get health back. But, I’ve helped them before so it all works out. Maybe I’ll write the Great American Novel or two while I’m off.
parsy, who is lucky
Make them clean out their own dirty underwear by dipping them(the dirty drawers not the kid) into the toilet. It gives them a brand new perspective.
You have my sympathies. It is tough out there but having someone who needs a job and isn’t willing to do anything is frustrating especailly sicne he isn’t 21 and straight out of school who should’ve already learned the lessons of life.
I watched a story on the tube of a man that allowed his son to live in a garage on his property. The son was a drug addict, stealing cars and parting them out, along with selling drugs. The son was arrested, and imprisoned for 5-10 years. The father went about cleaning out the garage, and found the sons girlfriend living there with some more “friends”. He kicked them out, had the garage cleaned and guess what? The girlfriend had a civil liberties attorney take her case. The homeowner was arrested, and prohibited from coming into contact with the building, or its occupants when he was released. He was required to replace anything he had “stolen”, turn the power on, and even let them use the car his son had been “borrowing”. The lesson is, be very careful who you allow on your property, in your house or to get close to you. You as a taxpayer, a homeowner and a person, have less rights to what you “own” than you have been led to believe.
I swore that I would NEVER work at one of the chicken processing plants........well, I don’t have to worry about it, neither one will hire me, and I have applied at both, more than once.
>>Fatherhood changed my whole definition of what is too disgusting to look at or touch as well.
The important thing becomes to clean it up without barfing yourself, and making a bigger mess for yourself to clean up!
Ah, perspective!
That can be pretty nasty work, too. Ask anybody that's ever had to clean out a 'dozer belly pan.
I’m working right now (something I’m very grateful for.) If I were to lose my job tomorrow and that was all I could find, I would do it in a heartbeat.
Sadly I think you’re right. I’m in Texas and we haven’t been hit as hard as other areas, but are starting to feel the effects. In my area we aren’t seeing the huge job losses yet, but hours are cut, wages are lowered, you don’t get an annual raise, or a combination of all three. I pray my job stays safe. I’m at an age where it won’t be easy to replace it.
Done that.
I know a guy who was “between jobs”, allbeit years ago. He cleaned cement mixers after the tankers came back to the yard. He had to crawl inside the tank and bust out the caked on cement with a hammer and chisel. It was another “dirty job” but one that kept him afloat until something else came around.
The posts about jobs which are perceived as beneath a person made me smile and remember my own fairly recent experience at overcoming my own mistaken pride. Although I used to teach in college many years ago, I had been a fulltime mom and out of the workforce for many years, so I swallowed my pride and applied for a cashier’s job at our local Hobby Lobby in order to acquire a little extra income. I thought I would just endure the work and the humiliation at winding up in a blue collar job, but to my great surprise, I loved working at Hobby Lobby - my customers, co-workers, and the managers were all kind and wonderful people, and all the employees worked hard together as a team. Teaching in a college department can be a very different environment. I eventually had to stop working at Hobby Lobby because I could not take the long hours standing, but if you are thinking about applying for a basic sort of job and you have a Hobby Lobby in your community, you might consider applying there. It is my impression there is a pretty regular turnover of workers, but the work environment itself and the company are surprisingly good, and you won’t spend much time worrying about your pride once your customers start lining up.
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