As are we all. But I fear you put the cart before the horse. As I have said, it is a cryptic culture. There is a cultural imperative in the Rom to deceive and rob outsiders. You think such behavior is automatically wrong according to your western values, and you also assume this behavior emerges from how they are treated rather than the other way around. Overtures to the Rom are problematic because you will always bump into their cultural imperatives, which go back hundreds of years in Europe. They are isolated in large part because they choose to be. You don't really know them because they have intricate social mechanisms to avoid being known. There's no Junior League Gypsy Recipe Cookbook.
And the ethnicity is also problematic. You saw that I jumped to the conclusion that a blonde, green-eyed Gypsy was part of the Irish bands that you come across in the rural US south. The culture of the Gypsies, the underground thieves and deceivers, wore off on some Irish and they brought it with them to the US. They don't have some of the religious (there again is a mystery of the Gypsy) culture, are often Catholic, but the clannishness and some other peculiar habits are the same. And I have to give them credit that they are not a "grievance group" like minorities are in the US, executing elaborate shakedowns of business under pain of being called "racist" like Jesse Jackson, et al. They do not engage in Rainbow Coalition extortion rackets, they prefer their own traditional cons.