I was exactly as your wife was with my babies, and I delivered all of them via C-section. Go figure. Mine could whimper and I would snap awake and listen to see if there was more coming indicating a need to get up with them. My husband, OTOH, sounds just like you, lol. I can remember mornings sitting holding a finally sleeping infant after being up ALL night with said infant crying throughout the night, feeling like a zombie, and him waking up refreshed and asking if the baby slept ok. He never heard a thing, and our babies slept in OUR bedroom.
There will probably be a lot more scientific discoveries made about the almost psychic bonds between a mother and child, though I’m sure most moms would say they could save the researchers a lot of time and trouble if they’d bother to ask them. LOL
Another comment on the “crying” thing... As our babies got older, my wife became less and less tuned in to their mid-night cries, while I became more and more tuned in to them. I know, it’s weird, but I think it had a lot to do with her cumulative exhaustion.
Once each baby had been weaned, I wound up sharing the late night feedings about 50/50 with her. It’s funny, but even after a tiring day of tough physical work, that little whimper would snap me right awake.
BTDT. I might have killed him, but I was always holding a baby.