It’s been said that we unconsciously try to finish unfinished business with our parents
with our spouses
and our bosses.
Many folks—male and female—latch onto an opposite sex carbon copy of their troublesome opposite sex parent who gave them so much grief growing up . . . which was never worked through.
The only thing that ‘feels normal’ is to go out and latch onto a carbon copy of such and begin the sick dance all over again.
It typically happens the 2nd relationship and the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th . . .
By the 6th or 7th, folks are tired. The relationships are not significantly better but folks are tired of starting over and more or less just put up with what they have or never try again, living alone.
Sad. Very sad.
Better to work the stuff through in therapy or some such.
I don’t want a carbon copy of my mother. If anything I’d rather a copy of myself, but not an exact female copy of me.