I beg your pardon. I do not refer to myself as a “bitch,” and I don’t expect you to do so either.
This title is a marketing device, okay? I didn’t think it up, so don’t blame me. It does refer to the mysterious fact that all nice girls have noticed: a lot, a great lot, of men seem to be attracted to women who treat them badly and are not attracted to the nice girls. We are always wondering why men do fall in love with and marry women who can best be described as bitches, or worse. The idea of the book is that the nice girl can take a leaf from the book of the nasty woman who has men worshipping her; the nice girl can learn how to stand up for herself and get the respect of men without being cruel, hateful, or bitchy. It’s not a bad idea.
It’s been said that we unconsciously try to finish unfinished business with our parents
with our spouses
and our bosses.
Many folks—male and female—latch onto an opposite sex carbon copy of their troublesome opposite sex parent who gave them so much grief growing up . . . which was never worked through.
The only thing that ‘feels normal’ is to go out and latch onto a carbon copy of such and begin the sick dance all over again.
It typically happens the 2nd relationship and the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th . . .
By the 6th or 7th, folks are tired. The relationships are not significantly better but folks are tired of starting over and more or less just put up with what they have or never try again, living alone.
Sad. Very sad.
Better to work the stuff through in therapy or some such.