I suppose if the woman for whom the door is being held objects, you can just let it go while she is walking through it.
Its not all that hard. If she gets mad because you hold a door for her, the problem is hers and not yours.
Funny you should mention that. You see, I got snapped-at for holding the door for a female back when I was attending community college.
“I can get it myself!”
Honestly...
Actually, it's not difficult at all -- I know it's a polite gesture. ...and it matters not if some feminazi feels otherwise.
It’s a Southern Thing,if you don’t recognize a lady here , she’s just might kick your butt.
It’s a Southern Thing,if you don’t recognize a lady here , she’s just might kick your butt.
It’s a sweet, polite gesture, I try to say thank you...sometimes everyone just moves too fast to get the words out.
TACKLING TEENAGERS: Your one weapon - and it must be used judiciously - is embarrassment. Threaten to use it in front of their friends.
Utter nonsense. You also have removal of their computer privileges, confiscation of car keys, bad reports to their grandparents (who then don't send money), PT, and the dreaded, "We will all sit here and I will read aloud from (whatever I'm currently reading) until you are ready to comply."
There is embarassment, of course, too. "I will go to your next Scoutmaster's Conference and tell your leaders that you are violating the Scout Law in these ways. I will recommend that you not be granted your next rank, because you are being a scandal to the BSA."
So the authors aren't too bright, and whatever they say about holding doors has a good chance of being as erronous as their teen-training advice.
After making my purchases, I walked down the ramp to the parking lot and noticed a woman carrying a tray. I turned around and held the door open for her. As she walked through the door, she smiled, thanked me, and said, "This doesn't happen very often."
I smiled back and said, "You mean the people in this town aren't particularly friendly?"
Her face contorted and she then said, "Yes, they are."
I stated, "That's not what you told me when you walked through the door. I guess I am lucky to just be passing through. Have a great day!"
The town is known for having people who are self-absorbed, angry types who want to control everyone else's lives. Exchanges at town meetings are often less than civil. I suspect many of the town fathers and town mothers have primary care physicians who are proctologists!
There is the occasional broad who sales through without acknowledging the courtesy, but all that demonstrates is that she indeed a broad and not a lady.
Well, when people started holding doors open for me to come walking through (a guy, dontcha know...), I figured it was because I look like I’m getting old... LOL...
That sure didn’t happen when I was a youngster... :-0
I’m a relatively young person, and I hold doors open for the ladies. Not a one has ever objected. Even if they felt demeaned by it (which mkaes no sense to me, but I suppose it’s possible), I’d assume scolding me would be more trouble than it’s worth.
By the way, for some reason, older women on average seem to be more surprised by the gesture. You be the judge as to why that is so.
I thought chivalry died in the 70s.
Really people over think stuff. You hold the door open for everybody, men or women. That’s just polite.
I make the effort to hold doors open for women and seniors, and no one has told me, “I can get it myself,” but I’m not spending any time on college campuses, either.
If it should happen, I’ll ignore the comment and hope that the ungrateful, man-hating lesbian gets burning coals heaped on her head, a la Romans 12:20. :-)
seems the feminsts have failed to kill off manhood after all.
I always get the door. 99.9% of the time I get smiles and thank you’s. Then again, I’m in TX.
I remember a snowy day in college, 1980 or so, when I held the door open for whoever was behind me.
And suddenly there’s this angry: “What’s this, do you want to keep me barefoot and pregnant ??”
The resultant heat could have melted snow over half the campus. It was one of the campus fixtures, a tall, thin woman with butt-length hair, coke-bottle glasses, and a barely disguised hatred of all things male.
I turned, looked at her, and said:
“Hmm. Well, it’s too cold for bare feet, and as for pregnant, that would require sex. And I have a basic rule when it comes to sex: only with humans. . . “.
I then turned and strolled merrily away. . .
Gosh this is a tired old subject. I have never heard a woman complain about being insulted because someone held a door for her. Is this really a problem? Sure there will always be the nut who spouts off but that can be either sex in any circumstance.