I’ve been thinking about a S&W 357 for the versatility of firing 38 shells. Right now my weapons include my Remington 12g Super Magnum Express and what ever they issue me at the Armory window...
If you have minimal resources for home security I would suggest a 4 inch S&W 686 as your ladies can use it as well as you. Like it or not some ladies and even some men or elderly can not operate a slide on a semi auto. A wheel gun is a very basic good handgun for the home for self defense IMO and experience. With a CHL (permit) this can be carried when out and about easily with a IWB thumbreak holster as well.
Were I issuing guns to evey home in America I would issue the following as a basic set of personal defense / security and foraging tools.
Pump Shotgun
Scoped Bolt Action Rifle in .308 or 30-06
2 x 38/357 revolvers
A Scoped small bolt action or 10-22 style semi auto .22 rimfire for small game and knee capping rioters or looters.
just my opinion of course.......:o)
You still active duty ?
That would be my best advice. In fact, my primary carry and shared wife weapon is a Taurus .357. Wife loads it with .38s when she takes it.