[Watershed]

...and yet whenever anyone passes on, one hears how wonderful he/she was no matter what the flaws. Maybe this woman was truly evil. Still, I don’t know if I could have publically condemned someone in this way.

[Mad Dawg]

I don't think it's right, but as a former holy-dude I have seen families so torn apart by a personality-disordered, alcoholic or other substance abusing parent that they couldn't or could scarcely cooperate to get the dear deceased under ground.

And for people in such a fix hearing the usual praise heaped upon the departed, who inflicted on them scars and wounds which will pain and crippled them for the rest of their lives is like having a knife twisted in their guts.

So, I don't approve. It's far mo' better to avoid speaking ill of the dead and to do at least superficial honor for one's mother and father. I don't approve, but I surely understand.