Fair enough. The only reason I responded the way I did is I really wish I hadn’t listened to those who made be believe that my life would be better ‘with someone’ and something was wrong with me because I wasn’t paired up.
I wish I had learned who I was about 15 years sooner, I could have avoided a lot of misery. I wasn’t meant to be married EVER! Not only was my life hell, but those around me. So yeah, I’m here to cheer on the young ones! You’re happy alone, don’t let someone talk you into doing something that goes against your nature. Know who you trully are, and if its a Hobbit, be the best and happiest Hobbit ever. Don’t listen to “alone is bad” crowd when solitude is what keeps you strong and sane.
As for my one hour.....today’s Sunday, I have 4 hours of human tolerance in me—— but 1 hour of it will be at the grocery store.
At least you are honest with yourself however I may add that I am very careful when reflecting a wishing. Sometimes the things we take away from experiences aren’t as evident when we are looking at things from our comfort zone. There were experiences that weren’t all that pleasant in relationships that made me grow in ways I never would’ve as an onlooker.
I do think that it was wrong for you to think something is “wrong” with you because you weren’t paired up. The pairing should happen naturally at least it did for me but part of that is making yourself available and not trying to force relationships where they aren’t working naturally. Some people are just not right for one another and only cause each other pain. As for me I always knew I wanted to be married and have kids with a good wife. I didn’t actively seek female companionship but it happened nothingnesses.
Not that I wasn’t interested but I was taught to be a gentleman where that was concerned and it worked out. It had a novel effect. I didn’t spend much time pursuing the unattainable and saved myself a lot of pain.
It isn’t that marriage has been all cupcakes and roses and indeed it is helpful to know who you are or even more who you want to be. I’m the first to suggest that if one does not feel ready for marriage or children then it is better they wait. I’ve never been one to wait for that matter I just decide I want to do something and do it or try to and accept the consequences. My wife suggested we elope one night at my parents house and we did the next day. It has been 13 years now and 4 kids later and things worked out because we worked together. She was with me when I had no money and now that I’m doing fairly well is still with me. That seems to be the key more than anything you need someone you can work with.
Oh no, 4 hours! Thank you for spending just a bit on me. ;-)
What is your favorite grocery store?
Candi Staton said it best back in 1976:
Who wants to spend this one and only life
Ending up just another lost and lonely wife
You count up the years,they will be filled with tears
Love only breaks up to start all over again
You’ll get the babies but you won’t have your man
While he’s busy loving every woman that he can
Young hearts run to yourself be true
Don’t be no fool when love really don’t love you
Young hearts run free
Don’t get hung up,hung up like my man and me.