[Maelstorm]

At least you are honest with yourself however I may add that I am very careful when reflecting a wishing. Sometimes the things we take away from experiences aren’t as evident when we are looking at things from our comfort zone. There were experiences that weren’t all that pleasant in relationships that made me grow in ways I never would’ve as an onlooker.

I do think that it was wrong for you to think something is “wrong” with you because you weren’t paired up. The pairing should happen naturally at least it did for me but part of that is making yourself available and not trying to force relationships where they aren’t working naturally. Some people are just not right for one another and only cause each other pain. As for me I always knew I wanted to be married and have kids with a good wife. I didn’t actively seek female companionship but it happened nothingnesses.
Not that I wasn’t interested but I was taught to be a gentleman where that was concerned and it worked out. It had a novel effect. I didn’t spend much time pursuing the unattainable and saved myself a lot of pain.

It isn’t that marriage has been all cupcakes and roses and indeed it is helpful to know who you are or even more who you want to be. I’m the first to suggest that if one does not feel ready for marriage or children then it is better they wait. I’ve never been one to wait for that matter I just decide I want to do something and do it or try to and accept the consequences. My wife suggested we elope one night at my parents house and we did the next day. It has been 13 years now and 4 kids later and things worked out because we worked together. She was with me when I had no money and now that I’m doing fairly well is still with me. That seems to be the key more than anything you need someone you can work with.

Oh no, 4 hours! Thank you for spending just a bit on me. ;-)
What is your favorite grocery store?

[najida]

LOL!
Thanks for understanding. The point of all of this is that people shouldn't force things to happen. And that those around those who are married shouldn't pass judgment and make remarks (as many on this thread have) about those who are single and say they don't wish to be married. It's wrong and it hurts. Better for someone to be alone and happy than with someone and miserable.

As for my 4 hours, thats face to face time.....computer time is like playing inside my own head. And I can walk away at any point.

Favorite grocery store? Hmmmm, Food Lion because it's closest to my house.