I disagree I think there is someone for everyone. There are those best kept alone such as with predators. I do think the most unnatural thing a person can do is not desire to forge a long term relationship bond with another. It is unfortunate that many choose another who does not compliment them but that does not change the fact that human beings are designed to form families. Nature dictates as much, it is our modern world built on abstract lies that has corrupted ideas of relationships and sexuality and families to the point where it is sometimes easier to stay alone. However I am of the bent that a person is best that challenges themselves.
I could’ve individually fed my ego and my entertainment had I not gotten married and become a father. I could’ve had spurious relationships that pass in the night till they are more like dreams than reality but I would have been a lesser man. I think it is really about attitude and facing the fear because many are fearful of giving up even one inch of ego, compromising one foot of space, granting one anyone admission to their heart. That said I know do know of some who are happier and choose the life for religious purposes but they would be happy regardless and they are usually very social and spend their time helping others. This is not usually the case though. I see far many giving up having families and relationships because of fear, because of greed, and for positions of power. I find this very saddening but that is their choice. What I object to is a media and culture that lifts up solitude and easy living as natural when their is nothing less so in the history of man.
People are not meant to go through life alone and young people especially should be encouraged to think about how their activities will build to the point of forming healthy families rather than resentful bonds and empty marriages.
Do you realize the arrogance of your post? I’m not saying it’s the vast majority, but wow-— don’t you believe in individuals? And no, not everyone on the planet pairs up like on Noah’s arc. Some of us are one of a kind without a match.
I’m 51 years old, I’ve been married and widowed twice— I hated the basic structure of marriage and felt buried alive. I had roomates in college, grew up and a house full of people and I was always happiest when the house was empty and things were quiet.
And I repeat, being alone is when I am the strongest, the happiest, the most real and honest. It’s when I can go out into the world and be a good employee, a good friend, a good teacher, a good Aunt, a good sister....a good person. Take away my solitude and I’m purely in hell. No other way to paint it.
I tried, and tried, and tried and was miserable—— because there were people like you around me that convinced me that I was a freak unless I wasn’t alone. But I am not a freak, and I am happier alone. I’m more of a freak when I try to be someone I’m not.
Yes, I have gobs of friends and family. I have a very full and busy life. And it’s by far a 1000 times better than when I tried to ‘be with someone’.
You realize that the only way I could ‘be with someone’ is if they were an individual content on seeing me only 1 hour a day and a few hours on weekends? And often then, I want to be left to myself. That’s all I want or can tolerate at the end of the day. So no, I’m not wired for marriage or ‘pairing’ unless there is an equal hermit willing to sleep in another room (yes, I cant’ sleep next to another person, no matter how tired)
I repeat, we are not the majority, but we do exist. We are not bad, just different. Respect us and we’ll respect you.