Yes, I agree with the poster (sorry, I can’t remember who it was) who posted that you can’t always blame the parents (or something like that). He or She stated that you can raise 2, 3 or 4 children the same way, and sometimes one (or more of them) will turn out completely different from the rest. I’ve seen this first hand in my family and I totally agree. My 2 sisters and I wore born approximately 2 1/2 years apart, and were raised exactly the same and during the approximate same time period of my parents’ lives. Yet, I have one sister is just not right. She is not a psychopath or sociopath (at least I don’t think she is), but she has always had problems ‘grasping’ that her actions lead to ‘consequences’ and she feels that certain rules (of life) should not apply to her. I believe that some people’s BRAINS, including my sister, but most definitely psychopaths and sociopaths, are just ‘wired’ differently than the rest of us. JMO, of course.
BTW, I love my sister, and she is not violent, but she has hurt people in other ways by her actions. Mostly, I wanted to point out that she, and some other people that aren’t ‘wired’ right, don’t usually give any thought to the consequences of their actions, AND even when those consequences OCCUR, they do NOT BELIEVE they are in any way responsible for them....I hope I made my point bc I’m definitely not trying to slander my sister or anything...lol
Wonder what happens to the original records of the marriage? Are they pulled from the record? Are they sealed
You made your point very clearly! I am touched by your words.
And thank you for the insight. I imagine your sister is a difficult burden to bear. The fact is that there are personality disordered people out there, where “nurture” seems to make no difference. And for all the love the family has, it still cannot make things right. Sending you hugs.
I think I was that (or one of) poster.
I’m sorry to hear of your sis and know you are not diss’n her - these things happen in the best of families....sometimes leaving a lot of destruction behind them.