I took no offense. I just didn't pick up the right meaning.
I've also learned that certain fears serve no purpose other than to rob someone of the 'today' s/he has.
I agree that this can be a problem. Unfortunately, I'm not always successful fighting those fears. I guess no one always wins against them.
Most people change. Maybe you don't. For all you know, your arthritis could get so bad down the road that you wouldn't want your four seasons anymore.
I could decide by that time that I don't want all four seasons. Mostly, I talk about the retirement property as an example of a change that one might make after deciding that a relationship isn't going to happen. I still think that if a relationship is a possibility, finding the dream home together would be more fun.
It sounds like your goals might best be served by moving where you want and finding someone after you get there.
My field of engineering is pretty specialized and the relatively small job field means that I don't have good geographic flexibility. I'm trying to keep career options open, and I might look at going somewhere better. Unfortunately, I can't plan on being able to find work in any location that I might like.
Thanks again for the good thoughts.
Bill
You're most welcome. You're a smart man. You work in a big plant. Are there no women there? Just wondered.
I've had my share of relationships. The best ones aren't the fireworks and weak knees, IMHO. The best is when every look is a paragraph, every touch is a volume, every awakening is a masterpiece.