I think you can't really look for it. If it happens, it happens. But if you go looking for it, the odds are you're going to accept something that isn't really right because you're looking for anything. At least that's what I think. I've tried to stop worrying about it. Whatever happens is up to God. That's really hard to do but whenever I specifically went looking for a boyfriend, I never found the right guy.
one of the things i have learned, i think i posted before the thread got pulled... and it was you or snugs that responded to it...
a person needs to be secure in who they are, know who they are in themselves and in Christ, before they are going to be any good in a relationship. it means getting to the point of being able to say, i can live alone the rest of my life and am ok with that...
it doesn't mean live lonely. you have friends, and you do things. but you also know yourself, love yourself for who God made you to be, and are being the best you can be.
then, the relationship will come as God brings it. otherwise we set ourselves up for disaster. we look for someone else to complete us, to define out identity (spouse, or kids). then if there are ever problems in that relationship, and/or it ends...our identity is lost! no one can make another person happy, and it isn't their responsibility to do so, either. again, it is part of the identity thing, IMHO.
a speaker i heard recently said, 'GOD knows who the mate is that He has chosen for you. That person could be continents away. Only God knows who it is. If you don't know who it is, but God does, doesn't it make sense to draw yourself as close to God as possible so He can bring you both together? after all, HE is the only one who knows who that person is and where they are! Get closer to God and He will make it happen, His time, His way.'
amen!
so, in the meantime...i am open to FRiendships galore! how's that!?? :;grin::