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My, how the tables turn sometimes!!!

Last year, about this time, and a bit after, you all recall me saying how My cousin Brenda and me were not getting along. I spoke about how she made fun of my nerves and coughing, and made comments to me and to my sister, repeatedly, about how no woman would put up with me, and I would not last long on a date and such. She also told me I made her sick, when I was around her.

At the time, she was still in the habit of spending 200-500 on ONE outfit, and leaving 10-20 for tips at restaurants. She made fun of my mother and sister for shopping at Kmarts, and such--she preferred Cachets and Bebe.

That was THEN....... THIS IS NOW!!!!!!

Her and My sister Lisa are leaving tomorrow for their vacation. THIS time it was BRENDA who is having a problem paying for it!! In fact- I LENT HER $250, myself-- so she would have enough money!!

It is ironic, that only 3-5 years ago, she was spending 1-5 THOUSAND on jewelry, having dinners that cost JUST HER over $80, and buying all of those expensive clothes.

Now, she wishes she could go back, and "undo all of that".

So.... You all may ask---"WHY did I lend her that money", when only a few months ago, she was pounding on me the way she was emotionally??

I guess I am just an old softie.........I am good at repaying someones bad deeds toward me..with kindness and compassion.

And I COULD have made fun of her situation-- and I have EVERY RIGHT to do so!! I could had said something like"" well-- look who is having problems with money", or "the little princess has lost her kingdom", or even-"see, if you hadn't wasted all of that money, all of those years--you would have some today"!!

But I just don't do things that way.

I guess I am from the "kill them with kindness" school.and feel that it is NOT the right thing to "kick her when she is down".........All that would probably do is cause her to have a nervous breakdown, and I do NOT want to see that!!

She has been treating me better, lately anyway.. well before I promised to lend her the money....

I guess I am just an old softie.........I am good at repaying someones bad deeds toward me..with kindness and compassion.

And I COULD have made fun of her situation-- and I have EVERY RIGHT to do so!! I could had said something like"" well-- look who is having problems with money", or "the little princess has lost her kingdom", or even-"see, if you hadn't wasted all of that money, all of those years--you would have some today"!!

But I just don't do things that way.

I guess I am from the "kill them with kindness" school.and feel that it is NOT the right thing to "kick her when she is down".........All that would probably do is cause her to have a nervous breakdown, and I do NOT want to see that!!

I know what you mean, I'm much the same way. I just cannot kick someone when he or she is down unless that person was truly evil like say a Saddam Hussein or an Adolph Hitler type. It's not my way either. I remember when I was a kid, Mom, who had been divorced for a few years so money was tough to come by had to lend her sister, my aunt, some money. My uncle and aunt, who usually did quite well, well at the time, my uncle lost his job so they came to us for money. Usually we are seen as the "poorer relations" in the family. Well we lent them oney them and they paid us back.

Another story, Mom and I lent money to my cousin in 1989, he recently gotten married, I was 23 at the time, he was 20, his wife, 17 or 18 and they had a baby. Well, soon after, days in fact, we found out he was playing around and was getting divorced, in fact, we had to take him to Georgetown where the courthouse in Williamson county (where Round Rock, Texas is) to meet up with his attorney. He was skipping out on child support and his attorney was giving him "the business" by reading him the riot act and rightly so. Well later on, he moved up here, basically abandoning his daughter (she's old as my cat, Corky, that how I remember, she's 17 now). He moved up here, got involved with another girl, had a son and then he abandoned her although I hear he sees his son from time to time. He's now 300 lbs or more, on welfare and/or SSI and living with a lady on welfare who can't have kids, Thank God. He really screwed up his life as his brother did as well, deep down I feel sorry for them an even more so for the kids, but in their case, they made a lot of bad decisions.

I know in my case, I made wrong decisions from time to time but at least I'm employed at a decent job making money. It's still tough, I'm trying to dig myself out plus with my car needing a lot of repairs, Greystone getting sick and dying, Boo getting sick but now well, I'm got a ways to dig out of the hole here but at least I'm with a good company hopefully with room to go somewhere.

Out of the males in my family my cousin from my aunt, the one we lent money to, well, he's the most successful moneywise, he's worth millions, I would be in second place though, a very distant second but I can't complain, I'm not homeless or starving so that is a great plus. B-) My other two cousins are basically losers.

She has been treating me better, lately anyway.. well before I promised to lend her the money....

Well, hopefully she will keep on treating you better, still I'd monitor the situation but yeah, I know what it is like to be in your shoes with family, although the situations are different, in many ways, they are similar too.